For starters, there is no quantitative "number one" cigar. Cigars, like anything else related to taste, are by definition, a matter of choice. There are some very good cigars out there and there are some real "dog rockets". But which are which is a matter of trial and error.
But to answer your question a little more directly. A good cigar is a combination of balanced blending of the tobacco, quality construction, good presentation and visual appeal. There are certainly companies that consistently produce sticks with these attributes (Padron, Arturo Fuente, Rocky Patel to name a few). But one person’s “Go-to” is another’s “yard-gar”.
Why do we think it’s hot when a woman smokes a cigar? The polite answer is probably that it is usually a turn on when a woman steps into a typically male dominated enjoyment like cigars, scotch, etc. Kind of like a woman in a man’s shirt… only the shirt…..