Waterboy, I am so sorry for the difficult times you and your family are going through. Thought and prayers are being sent your way.
This poem was given to my family when my grandfather recently passed. I hope it helps.
Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep.
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Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die.