So here is the situation. I have a girlfriend that i have been seeing for three years now. we have had some problems that id rather not discuss but its not relievent. We are both in college at the same school in wisconsin. today i planned on taking her out to eat. well she had a meeting at 630 tonight till whenever it got done around 7 or so. So i went to play some basketball. I was going to get here car and pick her up right around then. I checked my cell phone at 659 to see if she had called yet. she had not. then i checked again after we had won the next game. I had to missed calls at 703 and 704. It was now 711 i called her and said that we had one more game because you cant just walk out after a win. we were on a 4-0 streak. we played one more game and won but i knew she wasnt happy the last time i called her. so called her after the game at 724. I had her keys and all she wanted was her keys and thats it no dinner nothing. so i dropped her keys off. let you know its not like right there i had to walk about 700 yards in the cold while sweaty. so my question is and sorry for the long windedness but whats the big deal its not like shes never late. this happens more often then not with her. I would like mens and any women who look at this opinions. thanks in advance. open for questions also
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Don't worry about it. People (men & women) both get upset when things don't go the way they want them to. She probably wanted to spend time with you, but you picked basketball instead. This upset her and that's that. If there are other issues that could add to them. Whatever you do, don't try to explain that it is dumb to get upset for something so small. Just apologize and tell her you didn't realize it was that important. Then go to a bar, have a smoke and chill with your guy friend (or post crap online).
If this is her typical reaction when her expectations are not met, I say dump her and go on to the next one. The operative word here is "typical". If there have been no instances where she has been forgiving when you have just been yourself and goofed up, then you are in for a frustrating ride my friend. If this was not typical for her and she is able to sometimes shake off the dust and let it go, she may be a keeper. I'm not a psychologist or anything like that. Been married 33 years and have seen many friends and relatives go through some great relationships and some horrific relationships. Of course, you can't always pull crap like this and expect things to be fine either.
Again, if this is the typical behavior pattern when you screw up, then think a little deeper than your penis and maybe talk with a couple of close friends or maybe a close brother/sister. Pretty soon you will be required to make a decision on whether you will spend the rest of your life with her or not. Marriage vows are forever my friend!
Again, if this is the typical behavior pattern when you screw up, then think a little deeper than your penis and maybe talk with a couple of close friends or maybe a close brother/sister. Pretty soon you will be required to make a decision on whether you will spend the rest of your life with her or not. Marriage vows are forever my friend!
Welcome to life Rigil. Women, some times you can't live without them and sometimes you can't live with them. I just try and do what I think is right and how I want to be treated. I am very, very lucky to have found an incredible woman that lets me have fun, in fact she joins in.
If this is gf of yours isn't the right one, then move on and find another one. Good luck on whatever you decide brother. Its easier to find out now, then find out after you have been married for 7 years and really have to pay! Some of you know what I'm talking about.. lol
If this is gf of yours isn't the right one, then move on and find another one. Good luck on whatever you decide brother. Its easier to find out now, then find out after you have been married for 7 years and really have to pay! Some of you know what I'm talking about.. lol
WhiteLightning
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There's gotta be more to it for her to be mad. If not I would consider reevaluating the relationship. My .02.
WhiteLightning
This is WhiteLightning!
If she knew you were playing ball then what's a few minutes here or there. Maybe it's that time of the month. See how she responds tomorrow. She'll probably have forgotten all about it.
Women are moody and crazy it's that simple. Some are just less crazy that others and it all depends on how much craziness you are willing to put up with. Ask her why she was pissed. Then at least pretend to care and say your sorry. My future wife at this point is very reasonable but can be moody. As long as you stay calm when talking about problems then it helps her to keep her cool.
Electric Sheep
Dsicle - BoM Dec 06
Only five?!?
I mean, in college not impossible to date 50 women in a single year. :rofl:
But as far as the minimum age is concerned, I always planned "no earlier than 30" myself, but even I eventually finally gave in at 28. :glassesgr
Wasch_24
2005 BoY
Shoot, you are lucky she is only mad you took so long with the keys. :rofl:
As a married man I see nothing in your post that qualifies as woman troubles...actually seems painfully normal to me.
It looks to me as if she feels you chose basketball over dinner with her...and rightfully so. At 659, when you checked your phone, you probably should not have started another game.
Just my $0.2 as a happily married man. :yes:
This comment fits in perfectly with what I was going to say.Only five?!?I always planned "no earlier than 30" myself, but even I eventually finally gave in at 28. :glassesgr
1st....Every woman you ever meet wil do something that bugs you and vice versa. To find the right woman you have to find one whose "thing that bugs you" is something you can deal with.
2nd....Don't ever date someone you wouldn't want to marry or bring home to Mom. Of course you may have to sleep with the ones you wouldn't marry, but don't date them.
There are plenty of couples around who should have never been together in the first place, but they got comfortable and didn't want to go out there alone, then she gets pregnant and they get married. You never know when you are going to fall head over heels for someone, and getting stuck in a rut with someone who is not the one will keep you from your true love. If it is not going to be the one, MOVE ON. Honestly after 3 years you probably know what you want for your future. If you can put up with what seems like a little moodiness, due to the fact that you had her keys and car while she was stranded in the cold. Then I think you should be fine.
3rd when arguing with a woman
If you are wrong APOLOGIZE
If you are right APOLOGIZE PROFUSLY
Moglman
Mountain Hound
TexasSmoke and Todd said it best. Don't try to explain, you made a choice that was acceptable to you and not to her. Accept the fact, apologize, and remember that next time you have a similar choice. There is no wrong choice, but things go much smoother when sacrifice a little to meet her needs.