Well some of you know I am 18 so I could move out but I am trying to go to school so I can support my self. Anyways my dad is trashed right now he just got done cleaning the whole kitchen. HE NEVER CLEANS! especially at 9pm he is usually in be right now. I think he might start drinking again it has become more frequent, he was an alcohol a few years ago. Oh and after cleaning the kitchen he had a snack and talked to my dog about how to have a healthy snack. WTF I am going to have to do something if this starts up again.
Drunk dads! what can you do?
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The only time I talked to animals, I was not under the influence of alcohol...........that was a long time ago.
Sorry to hear that about your dad. Oh, the phrase "he was an alcoholic" is incorrect, "he IS an alcoholic" and always will be. The current events are troubling and I hope he can get it under control before it gets worse. (not meant to be condescending, tone does not come across well)
My prayers are with you brother. I cannot imagine the emotions involved within your whole family.
Sorry to hear that about your dad. Oh, the phrase "he was an alcoholic" is incorrect, "he IS an alcoholic" and always will be. The current events are troubling and I hope he can get it under control before it gets worse. (not meant to be condescending, tone does not come across well)
My prayers are with you brother. I cannot imagine the emotions involved within your whole family.
Yea "is an alcoholic", I do agree. Once and addict always an addict.
It is kind of like he is on the edge of no one wants him living here but yet he is a "normal person". He can have rage issues weather sober or not.
Thanks for the input.
It is kind of like he is on the edge of no one wants him living here but yet he is a "normal person". He can have rage issues weather sober or not.
Thanks for the input.
It's tough to tell a grown man how to live his life. All you can do is tell him how his drinking makes you feel and to make sure that you don't fall into his footsteps of addiction. I wish you the best, good luck.
Jonah
Jonah
Sans the alcohol, he is a normal person? If that is the case, then the feelings of not wanting him there is perfectly normal. It is hard to reconcile the "normal person" from the Alcoholic when trying to make those decisions. Regardless, he is currently in the alcoholic phase and it appears and it may come down to the family deciding they are better of with him not there. I hope you do not have to make that choice.
Keep your head up....Chat with the brothers here...Get your degree, and make a better life for yourself.
I truly hope he gets some help so that he can salvage his life and the family as a whole. It may not be that bad yet, but from what you said, i am sure you know where it may be heading.....
Again, prayers are with you....I hope everything works out.....
Oh, you never did pick up another cigarette did you?????
Keep your head up....Chat with the brothers here...Get your degree, and make a better life for yourself.
I truly hope he gets some help so that he can salvage his life and the family as a whole. It may not be that bad yet, but from what you said, i am sure you know where it may be heading.....
Again, prayers are with you....I hope everything works out.....
Oh, you never did pick up another cigarette did you?????
As an Alcoholic I can tell you that there is not really much you can do. There is an organization that can help you understand this called Alanon. They are in the phonebook. Go to a meeting. Learn. Sorry if this is blunt but it is what it is.
Go. You will feel better meeting people in your same situation.
Go. You will feel better meeting people in your same situation.
I know what your going through. Addiction is a nasty disease and needs to be confronted. My father is a compulsive gambler, my mom and siblings just put up with it. Well i then became a compulsive gambler, (addiction is a vicious cycle) and glad to say that i have two years sober this november, anyhow my father continues to gamble and has been pretty much out of our lives for the last year. So i say to you, try to get your dad into recovery. going to an alanon meeting will help you greatly in deciding how best to go about this. Wish you all the best
My father was an alcoholic, and he was not a very nice drunk...
He was a great man, and a great father, but turned into a different person once he was all boozed up.
Jre said you can't tell a grown man how to live his life, and those words ring true with me, as I tried to have *that* conversation with my dad, and promptly damn near got dis-owned. ( while he was sober of course )
My prayers are sent your way man, as firsthand, this is not / will not be an easy fix, if there is one at all.
Be strong brutha!
He was a great man, and a great father, but turned into a different person once he was all boozed up.
Jre said you can't tell a grown man how to live his life, and those words ring true with me, as I tried to have *that* conversation with my dad, and promptly damn near got dis-owned. ( while he was sober of course )
My prayers are sent your way man, as firsthand, this is not / will not be an easy fix, if there is one at all.
Be strong brutha!
Good Luck. I got a little problem myself. Not that I am an alcoholic, but a black out drinker. I hear more stories about how fun I was, but have a hard time believing it. Even with pictures. I wish you and your pop, only the best.
Soundwave13
BoM Feb 2010
A lot of good advise here... I second Chuck's though - go to Alanon.
I'll keep you & your family in my prayers.
JFT
I'll keep you & your family in my prayers.
JFT
+3
About the only thing you can do for him is not rescue him and allow him to suffer the consequences of his actions. (Take your mom to Alanon too - although you may want a separate meeting).
Thanks for sharing this. It helps to talk about it and not hide it. Good perspective for me since I was on the other side of this.
My son has been going to Alateen for about 3 years and it has changed his life for the better. He is now 18 (I can put you in contact with him if you want). I'm on my way to have breakfast with him right now. Our relationship has really improved since we both started going to meetings.
I hope I'm not coming off as preachy.
Our prayers are with you.
I can relate to this very much so. My dad was a cocaine abuser. Meetings and a nonjudgemental person to talk to were what got me through it. I stayed away till he finally got the message that he had the problem and not us. Unfortunately he had to hit rock bottom to realize that. There are alot of great guys on here that are giving you sound advice. Good luck and God Bless.
Brett,
I don't have any experience with addicts in the family. It's good for you that you're able to recognize and deal with this situation. It sounds like some of the guys have good suggestions. You said elsewhere that you were going to move soon, it sounds like the timing may be right.
I don't have any experience with addicts in the family. It's good for you that you're able to recognize and deal with this situation. It sounds like some of the guys have good suggestions. You said elsewhere that you were going to move soon, it sounds like the timing may be right.
carocaniac
i hope this lighter works
My father was and quit when I was a very young age, so I can and cannot relate to your situation. I wish you the best and always remember, "If you don't like the way your parents are in life, it doesn't mean you have to be the same way!" Break the cycle...
Im trying to quit cigarettes too. Im down to about one a day. Good luck with dad. Remember to pray too!