Life Rewind - One lesson to teach your kids that you learned from your past?

[Wink]

Whats up My fine People?

I Have an almost two year old son, every time I look at him he reminds me so much of me. I don't want to let him down! There are enough dead beats in the world today that I damn sure don't want to add another one to the statistics. Were still learning from our mistakes, but what is one that you made that for the Life of you, you don't want your son or daughter to make?

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The one that comes to mind time & time again is I use to be a follower I mean without thinking I would do what every one else was doing no matter what it was just to fit in just to please other people. Took me a while to get it but I finally got it., That got me into alot of trouble where I could of destroyed my life, I think God he opened my eyes when he did. It's one of my worst fears to fail my son! Come on guys need some help on this one.

 

[danthebugman]

Bag it before you tag it :laugh:. On a more serious note though...surround yourself with friends who'll always give it to you straight.

Dan

 

[bdc30]

Bag it before you tag it :laugh:.

ha! Along these same lines though, I hope to be able to teach my kids to treat others with respect and concern for their feelings.

There were a couple people in my high school years that I did terrible things to, for which I've always felt guilty and will never be able to make up for. Cost me a couple of my closest friends at the time, and stays with me to this day. Definitely wasn't worth it since it was always for another piece of ass. :disappoin

 

[Treinenwj]

Surround themselves with friends that motivate them to be better people. When I was younger I hung out with the "slacker" croud, and it took me years to shake that mentality.

 

[ciggy]

Being a parent isn't easy. You will make just as many mistakes as your kids. All you can do is incourage them and build them up. I would constanty tell my kids to be a leader and not a follower. Have respect for your elders and know if you mess up you will be punished. Parenting "Bad Parenting" is the reason this country has alot of problems in my opinion. My kids say thank you and your welcome, they hold the door for people, they donate money to charities, they are involved with there family, but most of all I don't covet my children. I am honest to a point that makes that lesson clear. I have a 21 and an 11 year old. We live in a fairly small town that has it all. They could slip of the tracks at any time and you just have to be sure your there when they do. Kids aren't perfect and you have to sometimes let them experience bad things so they understand it's bad. I don't mean really bad just the usuall shit we all went through as kids. If your on top of your children and give them just a little space I have found that they will respect you and it will play on there conscience. Both my kids are great, have nerdy smart friends, great in school, and are leaders. Somehow even an idiot like me did a good job. Hang in there bro and just be the best parent you can be one day at a time!

 

[Wink]

You be surprised by what you can learn from other people. As you know where not perfect and you can only learn but so much from ones self, or your own mistakes. Thats why I asked the question to see what advice other people, in other circumstances, other cities, states etc..etc. I appreciate it, Im just at a point in my life where im starting to see more and more of myself in my children , the way they act, there personality, the way they deal with different situations some good and bad. Just when you think you got it figured out...Blam. My kids are very smart 2 girls 11 & 9 going on 20 one boy almost 2 act like he's 5?? I guess I just had a moment! Thanks Guys!

 

[stogies&hoagies]

Believe in yourself. Don't let other peoples opinion of you define you.

 

[Alwayslit]

Lead by example and you'll be surprised how much your children will learn. I'm not saying they will be perfect but they will be less likely to make the same mistakes and that's all you could ever want for them.

 

[dpricenator]

"if you are considering doing ANYTHING, no matter what it is" "and you would not feel comfortable calling your grandmother and telling her all about it"

Don't do it.

 

[stogies&hoagies]

My answer earlier was short because you asked for one thing. I have to mention another trait that I think is important, and that is to find, and follow your passion. If you find your passion you will never have to work a day in your life.

Every year I am invited to speak at a local middle school on entrepreneur day. I use those two points as the cornerstone of my 20 min talk.

 

[strife]

There's no better way to feel good about yourself than by being courteous, polite and respectful toward others. He'll learn that best by the examples of those around him so even if you think he's not watching or listening, you can be sure that he is.