what to do when your wife buys cigars

[UtahRootBeer]

So I just found out that my wife got me a present for christmas, she bought me a gurhka sampler. I tell her every year that if she wants to get me something I will tell her 3 things I want and she can choose one and every year she wastes money on something I dont want. Hell for 50 bucks I could have got 2 packs of baitfish and saved 10 bucks.
So what do you guys do when someone gives you something you will never use? And more importantly how do I stop her from getting shit I wont smoke or use?

 

[bdc30]

bomb the troops. or, depending where she bought em from, take them back. no sense stuffing them in your humi with no intention of ever smoking them. of course you could always keep a mooch-a-dor as well for those non cigar smoking buddies who like to come over and try to look cool. no sense wasting the good stuff on them.

 

[Robertsndr68]

depends which Gurkas they were haha contrary to popular belief there are a couple decent ones.

 

[StogieNinja]

Send the Gurkhas to the troops and quit complaining. She obviously wanted to do something nice and buy you something she thought you'd appreciate, and it's the thought that counts, not the gift itself.

If a brother here bombed you, would you be complaining here cause they're not sticks from your wishlist? Nah, you'd post a pic and a thank you and privately dispose of the sticks however you saw fit. Thank your wife, give her a kiss for caring enough to try and get you something cigar related, and move on happy that you had a wife who loves you.

 

[mistaforty]

I agree with it's the thought that counts and ninjas sentiment but I'm guessin you have that part covered so to answer your questions ...if it's truly something I'll never use I eventually get it to someone who can use it. And the only way it seems to me for wives to get what you want is if you talk about or share with them somehow what you like because when they go out and see it or hear about it even if it's just general convo they go oh I know he likes those. If not then you end up with what someone else likes.

This year two things I got were a bottle of macallan 17 and some X-ray images of rifles for the man cave ...we go to tastings together and guns are my thing. she knows.

 

[Xavier Dredo]

Point her in the right direction. My wife knows to go to my B&M and talk to the owner who knows what I like. This year she got me an LFD Chisel Sampler, Fathers Day she got me a mixed fiver of Ligas, etc. If your wife is shopping at one of your B&Ms and they're sending her home with Gurkhas, find another B&M!

 

[mdwest]

you smoke them...

as a general rule they arent horrible sticks..

they are typically over priced... and many people (especially around here) dont care for their marketing practices..

but they arent going to kill you..

and your wife made a sincere attempt to do something that she thought would please you...

give her a gift back.. act appreciative... and go smoke them.. letting her know when you are heading out to fire up her "Christmas smokes".. etc... make her smile.. and let her enjoy the gift of giving...

 

[zama80]

you smoke them...

as a general rule they arent horrible sticks..

they are typically over priced... and many people (especially around here) dont care for their marketing practices..

but they arent going to kill you..

and your wife made a sincere attempt to do something that she thought would please you...

give her a gift back.. act appreciative... and go smoke them.. letting her know when you are heading out to fire up her "Christmas smokes".. etc... make her smile.. and let her enjoy the gift of giving...

I agree with Dave. Smoke them and say thank you very much. It costs you nothing and means the world to her. Easy decision.

 

[problemsolverjc]

Point her in the right direction. My wife knows to go to my B&M and talk to the owner who knows what I like. This year she got me an LFD Chisel Sampler, Fathers Day she got me a mixed fiver of Ligas, etc. If your wife is shopping at one of your B&Ms and they're sending her home with Gurkhas, find another B&M!

This is the key... My wife goes over to Famous/Leaf and they help her find things they know I like or will like based on what I usually buy... works great!

For your issue... Cigars For Warriors!

 

[H3rrington]

I'm gonna say the same thing my watch forum told me when my wife bought me a fossil last year..

Thank her. Your wife is taking an interest in your hobby and trying to do something to make you happy.
It would mean a lot to her if you just pretended she did really well and you love them.

And hey. Now you have sticks to hand out to friends who aren't really smokers.

 

[MDSPHOTO]

I give my a wife a list every year and say buy me a few of the things on here. She ends up buying most of the list and then throws in a couple "odd" choices so I can't guess whats in the presents before opening them. It's worked for us for the last 25 years.

 

[Tag9485]

I haven't been a member for very long so Ill try not to start any crap. That being said, dude this is the internet so feel free to complain about it without fear of being bashed with the "say thanks and smoke them you ass." Everybody's relationships are different so who are we to judge. I discuss my hobbies with my wife all the time so she kind of knows what I like(even if she rolls her eyes bc she secretly doesn't care.) I would hold on to them for giving out at get-togethers and in the future discuss your hobbies and your likes/dis-likes.

 

[bigbill72]

this is the truth

Send the Gurkhas to the troops and quit complaining. She obviously wanted to do something nice and buy you something she thought you'd appreciate, and it's the thought that counts, not the gift itself.

If a brother here bombed you, would you be complaining here cause they're not sticks from your wishlist? Nah, you'd post a pic and a thank you and privately dispose of the sticks however you saw fit. Thank your wife, give her a kiss for caring enough to try and get you something cigar related, and move on happy that you had a wife who loves you.

 

[halel]

You could send them to me :3

But I totally know how this is.... My girlfriend bought me a Guess watch one year and it was tough.....

I was sitting at the cigar lounge the other day and a lady walked in, spent $60 on a $20 humidor, and told the man she 'accidentally' threw away his cigars and needed to replace them. Luckily the guy working at the shop knew his stuff.

 

[mwlabel]

you smoke them...

as a general rule they arent horrible sticks..

they are typically over priced... and many people (especially around here) dont care for their marketing practices..

but they arent going to kill you..

and your wife made a sincere attempt to do something that she thought would please you...

give her a gift back.. act appreciative... and go smoke them.. letting her know when you are heading out to fire up her "Christmas smokes".. etc... make her smile.. and let her enjoy the gift of giving...

+1 to this. A little class goes a long way.

 

[NCost]

Point her in the right direction. My wife knows to go to my B&M and talk to the owner who knows what I like. This year she got me an LFD Chisel Sampler, Fathers Day she got me a mixed fiver of Ligas, etc. If your wife is shopping at one of your B&Ms and they're sending her home with Gurkhas, find another B&M!

This. It's your wife we're discussing, not a friend on the forum. So she's wasting your money as well as hers. Time to educate her on what you like and the proper way to buy you cigars. It will take tact and a careful hand, but get her to understand that random cigars to a cigar smoker isn't ideal when she has you and the B/M guys to guide her in the right purchase.

 

[Bchray]

Be thankful that your wife cares enough to let you enjoy your smokes. Why not setout two glass of your favorite drink and ask her to join you as you lite one up.

 

[Tag9485]

Point her in the right direction. My wife knows to go to my B&M and talk to the owner who knows what I like. This year she got me an LFD Chisel Sampler, Fathers Day she got me a mixed fiver of Ligas, etc. If your wife is shopping at one of your B&Ms and they're sending her home with Gurkhas, find another B&M!

This. It's your wife we're discussing, not a friend on the forum. So she's wasting your money as well as hers. Time to educate her on what you like and the proper way to buy you cigars. It will take tact and a careful hand, but get her to understand that random cigars to a cigar smoker isn't ideal when she has you and the B/M guys to guide her in the right purchase.

Exactly. Wouldn't even necessarily have to let her know that the Gurkhas were not the way to go. If done right she would know more about your passion for cigars and feel a bit of pride that she can wax intelligent like at a B&M. It's all about communication and the way it's handled.

Or you could grin and bear it. Smoke them without the afore mentioned conversations thus building resentment and frustration. This resentment begins to make you frustrated about other things and next thing ya know your working on the big D. All because you wanted to not talk about things. Jeesh eat your heart out Sigmund Freud.... Then again sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

 

[H3rrington]

I also say educate her on your hobby and what you enjoy. I got the fossil one Christmas and the next got a Christopher ward speedhawk.

 

[BrittS88]

Hit her. I would hit her. Repeatedly. Until she understands her place. Then hit her again. Just to be sure.









No. In all seriousness. I would say "thank you. The thought you must have put into this is amazing. I really appreciate this. " then for me. Because my girlfriend is a Jordan collector I would add. "But babe, buying me Gurkhas and saying here I got you cigars is like me buying you Shaqs and being like here I got you some Jordan's. " find a way to politely let her know that Gurkhas are a no no by comparing it to something she understands. If she likes purses compare a Louis Vitton to a target knock off. I'm sure there is a way you can make her see that what she did was amazing and sweet and you love her for it. But the brand is oh so wrong.