Give her a foot massage. Do some random act of service that is special to her. Watch a chick flick with her that she picks. Whatever her "love language" is...speak it! Hopefully that language is not restricted to spending. It shouldn't be.
Need some help guys (husbands and fathers especially)
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Mr.Draned
The Grey Rooster
I got up early today and got ready for work.
Then I went to the store and grabbed my wife subway tokens and a few roses and brought them back to her. She needed the tokens and I figured doing it for her would be easier than her having to deal with it before work.
It's funny because I have always done things like this for her, but after she got pregnant it seemed like it may not be enough.
Listening to you guys put that back into perspective.
She seemed very happy!
Then I went to the store and grabbed my wife subway tokens and a few roses and brought them back to her. She needed the tokens and I figured doing it for her would be easier than her having to deal with it before work.
It's funny because I have always done things like this for her, but after she got pregnant it seemed like it may not be enough.
Listening to you guys put that back into perspective.
She seemed very happy!
You guys are way nicer than I am.
cgraunke
BoM March '14
I'm in the "Don't spend the money" camp. You'll need that for more important things soon enough!
What worked for me (kinda) was really just paying attention to her. Making every attempt to show I cared about her feelings and well being. The winner I found was foot rubs, especially when they started to swell. I'd come home from work, sit opposite her on the couch so we'd both be leaning up against opposite side arms, and rub her feet while I asked her about HER day. Whether it's neck, back, shoulders, legs, feet, or whatever, each woman has their button that makes them forget about why they're so pissed off. Besides, half the time they don't even know why anyway.
What worked for me (kinda) was really just paying attention to her. Making every attempt to show I cared about her feelings and well being. The winner I found was foot rubs, especially when they started to swell. I'd come home from work, sit opposite her on the couch so we'd both be leaning up against opposite side arms, and rub her feet while I asked her about HER day. Whether it's neck, back, shoulders, legs, feet, or whatever, each woman has their button that makes them forget about why they're so pissed off. Besides, half the time they don't even know why anyway.
cgraunke
BoM March '14
Oh, and I went to every doctor appointment I possibly could. It destroyed my saved up vacation time, but I always looked like a hero in the doctor's office when we'd be waiting next to all the other mothers there alone. I'm sure that helped me out on multiple occasions!
luckysaturn13
Smoke it if ya got it!
I second that
I have two kids. All I can tell you is tell her how beautiful she looks and find a way to stay out of her way and ask her if she needs anything all the time. Like before you go to bed because you are tied say "I think Im gonna go to bed. Do you need anything before I go." Also offer to rub her back alot or whatever she likes to rub. It can be tough not every woman or pregnancy is the same. Like my wife always hated spicy food till she got pregnant the second time with my son. Now she likes spicy food every since and that was like almost 10 years ago.
My business partner is married to a woman with 7 sisters and he has a great line. "I am just guy what do you expect."
Cigary43
Just Another Ashhole
Been there done that and not all women who are pregnant are alike even though they share common characteristics. Hormones are running north and south as you already know and "talking" them out is not really going to make any difference. What does seem to help is like others are saying...give her the weekend off by doing the household chores and making a nice dinner. I'd talk with her OB/GYN who is taking care of her now and ask him the same questions...maybe taking some energy organic stuff to relieve some of the discomfort of carrying around an extra 15 pounds every day...that gets old fast. Pain has a psychological effect on us human beings...can turn an otherwise wonderful person into an ogre. What most pregnant women seem to love is not having to keep up with regular chores....a day off every few days works wonders with any disposition except for my ex wife...she was the biggest bitch in the valley when she was pregnant.
YOU massage her then remind her of where that baby came from. Pregnant vaginas are lovely.
Been there bro...on a Friday or Saturday night make her dinner. Get a cheap bottle of sparkling champagne (grape juice), grab some candles you already have and do your best with making the food. Make something easy unless you have those kitchen skills. If you even gotta order in, fuck it, she'll appreciate the effort. Let her know how happy you are that she's having your baby and all that good stuff. After that its massage time upstairs with more candles, if you have them. If not, use the same ones from dinner. And the rest is history baby. Like Dee said above me and like I was told a while ago: "Ain't no P, like pregnant P."
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Make a coupon book that includes little things like good for one foot massage or back rub, all done by you. Take her somewhere she wants to go Friday or Saturday. Just do your best but it will never be enough. Just do the best you can.
Wife babysat her sisters infant last night.
I picked up a night shift at the hospital, even though I worked dayshift before that.
That's how I handled pregnancy/infancy.
I picked up a night shift at the hospital, even though I worked dayshift before that.
That's how I handled pregnancy/infancy.