Those that can handle it are fucking weird to me bud
Yeah, im starting to realize ill never be able to pick up again, because i know i cant just socially have one and then not think about it again. Although its not easy, Im accepting it and starting to feel a lot better.
That's awesome, brother. It's been great seeing activity on this thread again, I really appreciate you being so open and honest with us. It's tough realizing you can't have just one, especially when you feel like you can.
Yeah, im starting to realize ill never be able to pick up again, because i know i cant just socially have one and then not think about it again. Although its not easy, Im accepting it and starting to feel a lot better.
thanks man, it's guys like all of you that help make this easier. Me "coming out" has been personal therapy for my self. It's me letting go. On a positive note, my son got off the bus yesterday and I immediately got him to the table and started doing his homework together as opposed to me just sitting on my lazy boy with the ipad.
My wife and I are both in recovery. I fear the same for my children, but plan to give them the best tools I can and can only hope they make better choices.
I'm not sure I understand this statement. I practice moderation and model moderation for my children. This is "normal" to me and my wife...
I just meant that while using/drinking and as an addict the concept of people who drink in moderation, or can drink in moderation befuddles me because I can only conceive the idea of all or nothing.
I wish my FIL could figure this out. He was a functioning alcoholic while he was working as an engineer for the big 3. I mean seriously, 3 martini lunches, would come home and start in on whatever was at home. He was famous for the big gulp type cup full of wine. He would polish off a half gallon a night. He lost his mom and dad then retired and fell apart. He tried post retirement jobs and he got fired from them all either for being drunk or for having an attitude from withdrawing. He ended up getting divorced. When he left the house he left with a beautiful f450 and 5th wheel. Within 2 years both were destroyed. within 5 years he had 3 DUI's in multiple states and served jail time for some. He's now home living in a $2500 mobile home. He is trying but he gets 6 months sober and then thinks he can handle 1 or 2 and then goes completely off the rails again. He breaks my wife and daughter's hearts every time he does it. We've tried to shield my daughter from it but she figured it out quick. She's 15 now she loves him but wants nothing to do with him. He and I have had our differences but he is truly a good man. I've tried talking to him but I cant reach him. He will die soon eiter from a DUI wreck or the effects of 50+ years of drinking. At this point I have to have some serenity. Ive tried courage, now I just need the wisdom to accept him as is.
Yeah, im starting to realize ill never be able to pick up again, because i know i cant just socially have one and then not think about it again. Although its not easy, Im accepting it and starting to feel a lot better.
Ryan, you summed this up exactly, and I agree. I understand completely. I can't comprehend someone having two to four beers and either stopping right after those beers or someone getting trashed and then not drinking again for two weeks. Two months ago I got wasted, called in sick, and then started to drink again at around 9pm. I'm finally understanding that an addicts mind is not normal, therefore, we cannot understand normal. Thus, I don't think I can ever pick up again and be "normal".
I'm sorry to hear about this especially because my niece who is 16 has a father that is a meth addict so I can understand it with your daughter. I don't know what's worst, being an addict or having a close family member that is an addict that you can't help.
I appreciate the thought. My kid is strong and a really good kid. Hell shes 15 and already taking college classes (blended high school 1 extra year come out with associates degree). Im just glad you are good for today. Who knows maybe my FIL will figure it out tomorrow.
I was just going to only take a break until I experienced a moment of clarity and then immediately told myself, I need to go to AA, and soon. Hopefully the same will happen with him, it's never too late, even after you've lost everything. So happy to hear the strength of your daughter. My niece is the same, honors student, and my new brother in law adopted her last year. She's a strong kid that unfortunately had to remove her biological father from her life.
In some ways addiction is harder on loved ones than the addict. My father is an addict and I hated him for it and that hate is what started me down the path of addiction. I would suggest family members attend al anon meeting. http://www.al-anon.org/ to help them deal with the emotional roller coaster that comes with living / loving an addict
Personally when I was a kid my mom and I went the al anon/ alateen route from my stepdad having an issue that he corrected. The only good thing I got out of it was the serenity prayer. There was so much flux in the group it felt like we went over the first step 60 gazillion times and thats about it. We talk and have a decent relationship so she comes to us when she is upset about it. My experience allows me a little more to help her than the average person
Hey man I think this is amazing and a really great thing for people I myself have been clean one year and almost 11 months my clean date is March 25 2014 and am here to help anyone who needs I'm available at any time...
If this happened because of this thread, that's total bs!
Ha ha ha. Nah, ive wanted to hit you up for awhile. Almost 24 days now & taking my son out to mini golf tomorrow. Not easy, but im seeing the rewards.If this happened because of this thread, that's total bs!
Eric, and you better not have used today btw!
Chef is an easy target, well done.
Well thanks man.
