A little sympathy?
- Thread starter MichiganM
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pdonlin
aka Tumbleweed
The fact that she had access to your accounts speaks for how much trust there was between you both. To have that trust violated... actually crushed to pieces is most definately devistating and I feel for you man.
Even tho I can be pessamistic, try to stay positive for the time to come and everything will work out in the end!
Even tho I can be pessamistic, try to stay positive for the time to come and everything will work out in the end!
Man o man, Jason, that is terrible. Let us know if there is anything we can do. Best of luck to ya brother. Definately file a ploice report.
Sorry to hear that Jason. Sadly if she was a joint signer on the acct I do not believe there is anything the police can do. It becomes a civil matter as opposed to criminal.Seems odd she would take the money and leave everything else though.
Talk to your creditors and explain the situation, most will work with you if your upfront and proactive about it. (Speaking from experience, 120K in the hole and didn't file BK) You'll be surprised. Good luck.
Talk to your creditors and explain the situation, most will work with you if your upfront and proactive about it. (Speaking from experience, 120K in the hole and didn't file BK) You'll be surprised. Good luck.
Texas Cop
Cavalry Scout
Real sorry to hear this brother...Women can definately be the worst thing that ever happened to a guy, but of course, on the opposite side of the spectrum, when you find the right one, it makes all the others worth it. Keep your chin up brother, and things will work out for you. Contact your local police dept. and file a report, and if her name wasn't on the bank account, then you can file a claim with the FDIC (I think)...
Andrew
Andrew
Did she empty your account out as cash, or for some stroke of luck on your part did they cut her a check? If it were a check you could put a stop on it. Either way, I am sorry to hear it. It makes me angry just thinking about it. Say - I know a guy who knows a guy.....seriously though though man, I hope they find her.
MichiganM
The One, The Only
---Update---
Well there is a SMALL silver lining. I ordered a wine cooler as Steve well knows about a week ago. It came in last night after I found out about Jen. I'm glad I ordered it, because if I wouldn't have bought it that would have been 200 more dollars she would have taken out of the acct. Basically, if you look at it that way, the cooler is free. As far as legalaties go, she was a joint signer. There is nothin I can do. But I will say I only get burned once....and once only. This will damn sure be the last time anything like this happens to me. No more joint signers for me.
As far as my living situation. I'm going to stay one more month in the apartment. My family borrowed me some money to pay rent for a month because my acct is like a few hundred dollars in the hold because of overdraft fees. She not only took out money, but also used the check card for some purchases. Sweet.
So after the month I'll probably move in with my folks...or the better option may be to move back in with my close friends in their house for a few hundo a month. That's where I was living when I first met Jen. Good to get back to my roots and live with my friends.
Unfortunately, there is no real moral to the story. Without trust you have nothing, and I trusted her. You can get burned 8 months in like me or 10 years down the road. Ya just gotta roll the dice. At least, like a few guys said, it was now and not later. She could of took my laptop, my plasma or my car. It could be worse. Never again!
Thanks for all the support guys. I truly appreciate it.
Well there is a SMALL silver lining. I ordered a wine cooler as Steve well knows about a week ago. It came in last night after I found out about Jen. I'm glad I ordered it, because if I wouldn't have bought it that would have been 200 more dollars she would have taken out of the acct. Basically, if you look at it that way, the cooler is free. As far as legalaties go, she was a joint signer. There is nothin I can do. But I will say I only get burned once....and once only. This will damn sure be the last time anything like this happens to me. No more joint signers for me.
As far as my living situation. I'm going to stay one more month in the apartment. My family borrowed me some money to pay rent for a month because my acct is like a few hundred dollars in the hold because of overdraft fees. She not only took out money, but also used the check card for some purchases. Sweet.
So after the month I'll probably move in with my folks...or the better option may be to move back in with my close friends in their house for a few hundo a month. That's where I was living when I first met Jen. Good to get back to my roots and live with my friends.
Unfortunately, there is no real moral to the story. Without trust you have nothing, and I trusted her. You can get burned 8 months in like me or 10 years down the road. Ya just gotta roll the dice. At least, like a few guys said, it was now and not later. She could of took my laptop, my plasma or my car. It could be worse. Never again!
Thanks for all the support guys. I truly appreciate it.
Even though I am new to the forum, its Painful to hear about anyone going through this. Sounds like you did find a moral to the story. Life is a journey not a destination. Living with your folks is not bad. My kids did it twice before they settled in. That when my son got into the cigar habit with me.
Good luck and condolences.
Good luck and condolences.
Well bro, thats better news at least. My Avanti thermo came in today, so let's keep in touch shall we? As some brothers say, better now than after marriage or longer time together. This was bad but maybe the cleanest break ever. Hurts most now and again wish you the best and fast healing.
Well that explains why she was worried about what you spent on sticks, less for her to walk with. Glad you are able to work out the living situation. A little tip, if you have money, open an acct at another bank ASAP. If they close your acct it will be difficult to open another until you get the old acct current. This way you can still function while you are getting your old one current.
djs134
BoM May '06
Just caught up on this! I was really sorry to read about your situation. Dont let this make you too cynical though. You opened up enough to trust her and she took advantage of it. Fact is shes the poorer for it. Hope you get back on your feet quickly. And keep in mind that your perspective on this will change over time. Take what lessons you will and move on, bro. Life is too short to stay down too long.
Much sympathy bro........I know how you feel, as something similar happened to me once. The nice thing is you have friends and family that can help you through this. That is something to really cherish.
Take care, and I hope things get better for you soon.
Take care, and I hope things get better for you soon.
