Rick that is terrible news my prayers and thoughts are with your family! My MIL just had surgery to remove a supposed in-operable tumor but got a 2nd opinion and went to MD Anderson Medical CTR. in Houston those guys are the flippin' shizzle! I don't know if you guys have but it might be worth it to get a 2nd opinion from maybe MD Anderson and also the Mayo up in Minnesota? I know there are also some fantastic hospitals in NY. Bless your family and take care of your wife this is going to be very tough and she needs you to be strong, God Bless!