I've been living with my gf for about 8 months and I've been saying how I want a dog for a while now. She doesn't want one. Should I go buy one anyway or just suck it up and forget about it?
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It might end up being a deal breaker for her....depends on her. She either will end up loving it....or she might end up leaving you. what do you want more a dog or a live in GF?.....
She doesn't want the dog because of it shedding, and she thinks it will destroy things in the house, dig holes in the yard. Ive always wanted a husky and I have a friend that has puppies and will sell one to me dirt cheap. I don't expect her to take care of it.
Whatever you do, don't "surprise" her, especially if she's said she doesn't want one. Also remember a husky requires a lot of exercise and in warm weather, it will shed. If they're not exercised enough, they will start tearing things up in the house (pending its going to be indoors), out of sheer boredom. I have to make sure my labs get minimum 1 hour straight exercise daily. Discussion is key and she will appreciate that you are making an attempt to communicate as opposed to just going behind her back so to speak. Go over every scenario you guys can think of just to be sure there aren't any surprises when and if you decide to get one. Good Luck! G1
Try to compromise- tell her that, different breed?
although I don't blame you on the Husky. This dude belongs to my neighbor who left him out in the rain Saturday night (again) - he's my smoking bud
I have half the mind to ship him to you
although I don't blame you on the Husky. This dude belongs to my neighbor who left him out in the rain Saturday night (again) - he's my smoking bud
I have half the mind to ship him to you
We have sat down and talked about it and she wont budge. We've talked about diffident dog breeds and I made it clear that I don't want a little ankle biter dog. There are other dogs that I like but its hard to pass one of these up because its the dog that I always wanted and my friend only wants 100 bucks. Shes mentioned a German Shepard but I think they are just as much work. She has 2 kids, one 3 and the other 9. I know Huskies are much better of a family dog.
Years ago, I wanted to keep a lab/husky mix. She didn't want the dog because of it shedding, and she thought it would destroy things in the house, dig holes in the yard. We got rid of the dog.
Took a few years, but FINALLY, got rid of the wife. I chose wrong first time.
Took a few years, but FINALLY, got rid of the wife. I chose wrong first time.
I think it's a great idea to get a husky or golden retriever, could be good for her and her kids once she and her kids spend time with it. If getting the dog is a deal breaker with you two, then you have to make a tough choice of what you want more, her or the dog! I think there is a show on tv called, "It's me, or the dog." Maybe if you catch some clips on YouTube, it can shed some light on this situation. Good luck, brother!
She looks at the bad more than she does the good in things so I don't know what to do. I have to put up with her kids. She should suck it up and deal with the dog lol
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I grew up with a German Shepherd, wow did it shed hair?!? If she doesn't want a dog that sheds, tell her a German Shepherd sheds a lot and that you really have wanted a Husky forever. But, I believe a german shepherd was a great family dog. Sure they can get big and might seem like a mean dog to some people, but they are very loyal to their family and mine was always great with me as a kid and other kids. Yes they are protective, but my dog was great. Had a watchdog's bark, but was not a crazed dog.
You got a tough decision... no way you should just come home with a dog without her permission. Just keep talking to her, maybe bring her to your buddies to look at the dogs and beg! LOL
You got a tough decision... no way you should just come home with a dog without her permission. Just keep talking to her, maybe bring her to your buddies to look at the dogs and beg! LOL
Age has brought me a bit of wisdom and you are in a no win situation. As others have said you need to make a decision on what is important in your life and go that direction. I will say the comment “ I have to put up with her kids” is a red flag you need to think about. A dog might just be the ticket.
Haha, Orangedog I wish it was that simple. Her stepmom has a German Shepard and its a great dog, she also spent a couple grand alone training the dog. I'm no dog whisperer but I'm sure getting a few books and learning some techniques I would be able to train the Husky as well. I don't mean the kids comment in a bad way but I never really wanted kids of my own. I like this girl enough and said I'm not going to no be with her just because she has kids.
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If you want some input on the husky lifestyle, I'm happy to opine - although I'm sure you can read a lot of it online. Mine have proven to be great family dogs. Not sure if I can provide much help in the decision, other than it is ultimately your decision. FWIW, my preference would be to make sure she is bought into the idea.
Have you tried the kid angle? Kids love dogs, dogs love kids.
Puppies require quite a bit of work but if you have kids they will generally keep the little guy busy until he grows out of it. Somewhere to run is key too.
"Honey, I want us to be a family and I have always dreamed that would include a family dog".
Also I don't know many women you can resist something soft and fluffy (setting myself for the TWSS jokes here)
But all seriousness, a little social engineering goes a long way.
But in the end, if she is adamant about it , the last thing you want to do is put a wedge between you two unless your willing to walk away. Just my 3 cents.
Good Luck bro
Puppies require quite a bit of work but if you have kids they will generally keep the little guy busy until he grows out of it. Somewhere to run is key too.
"Honey, I want us to be a family and I have always dreamed that would include a family dog".
Also I don't know many women you can resist something soft and fluffy (setting myself for the TWSS jokes here)
But all seriousness, a little social engineering goes a long way.
But in the end, if she is adamant about it , the last thing you want to do is put a wedge between you two unless your willing to walk away. Just my 3 cents.
Good Luck bro
Depends on the training, but the above is very true about exercise. If she is ok with a GS, then you should lay out the info on a Husky. Then again, if she is ok with a GS, you may need to give a little to get a little. GS' are fantastic dogs, very loyal, easy to train and great with families.
Personally, when we move into a house, I'm going to get a Belgian Malinois. Smaller than a GS, but nearly to Border Collie intelligence level.
Personally, when we move into a house, I'm going to get a Belgian Malinois. Smaller than a GS, but nearly to Border Collie intelligence level.