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Maybe I'm a littlle cynical, but being that she's just a gf & not a wife I look at it like this: if you 2 got your place together, you need to agree. If you moved in to her place, don't get the dog. If she moved in with you, get the dog. If she doesn't like it, she can leave.
 

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How serious is she? I've told my live-in fiancee a hundred times I dont want any pets, especially a cat, its just a matter of time before i come home to something...most likely a cat.
 

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I think you need to re evaluate your entire relationship. If having a dog is very important to you, she should realize that and make the sacrifice for you.

Writing things like "I have to put up with her kids" and "I like her enough" does not make it seem like this girl is future wife material.

When something is important to my SO, like getting a dog, I take it very seriously and we ended up getting a dog even though I didn't want one. Your girlfriend should do the same. The $100 price tag shouldn't even factor into the decision. Even if the dog was $500 or $1000, she should make the sacrifice, even if it means saving up for the dog.
 
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I would venture that there is something else deeper than wanting or not wanting a dog. (in re to your girlfriends feeling on the matter
 
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Great Danes are great family dogs, and are pretty chill, just watch out for their crap... they also need to get out and walk for a bit, but everyone we ever had while I was growing up liked to try and sleep on our laps while we sat on the couch.

That is assuming you are going to stay with her (which I would advise you to seriously consider before choosing whether or not to get a dog)
 

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The 100 bucks for the dog is very near sited. We were gifted a shorkie a year and a half ago ( long story) that has already cost us a couple thousand in less then 2 years. It's her place as I gather. If she is not for it then to me it's a no go. Btw coming from a guy who had pointers growing up..... I never thought such a small dog could fill my life with so much happiness.
 
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Yea, if it's her place, I don't think I would push it real hard. Sounds like some other decisions need to be made as well as the dog one.

We're just a bunch of guys that enjoy cigars, and decided to post on a forum concerning cigars. We won't be there to back you up if whatever advice you take from us causes a fight, and I can guaran-damn-tee you we won't be in the bed next to you when it's empty because you listened to somebody on here. Talking with her, and truly expressing how you feel about this dog to her may very well be your best avenue. I've been married 7 years, and I'll tell you this, it has been 7 years of give and take. There are things that I've wanted, that I simply can not have, and I've had to bite the bullet on those things. The same goes for her, there have been things that I've put my foot down on. (The foot got bit off, but it got put down anyway! hehe) Depends what you put a higher priority on, the relationship, or the object/pet. But, that's a decision that nobody on this board can make for you.
 
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So today she tells me she does want a dog and likes the idea of having a dog. We live in her dads house. He got married after the new year and moved in with the wife. But he says now we can't have a big dog till we buy the house.
 
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Are you leasing it from him or is he allowing you to live there free of cost? maybe offer a pet deposit?

My landlady still doesn't know about my dog.
 

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Any dog that sheds is gonna be a problem if she doesn't like it. We have a lab and although my wife loves her I constantly have to her her bitch about the hair and at times it's really a problem a couple times a year. If I were you I'd do more research on breeds that don't shed. For big dogs I've always looked at a laberdoddle or an english sheepdog. I really like the sheepdogs as long as there hair is cut short. Plus they make great family dogs and are easy to train.
 
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A husky will test you in a major way have had a couple in my lifetime. They are runners and will find every way possible to escape and stretch their legs. They are smart too, I had the electric fence to keep the last one in and he learned that dropping a stick on the wire would ground it and he could dig out. I had the fence anchored with with #3 rebars between 12 and 18 inches deep and he dug under them. Beautiful dogs but be prepared for the many challenges they will give you.

She doesn't want the dog because of it shedding, and she thinks it will destroy things in the house, dig holes in the yard. Ive always wanted a husky and I have a friend that has puppies and will sell one to me dirt cheap. I don't expect her to take care of it.
 
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