What to do now????
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Have you educated her on the minimal risks associated with cigars? Start smoking cigarettes and then tell her cigars would be a compromise
Life is compromise. How can one be truly happy with something knowing it make the one they love unhappy? Compromise. Find middle ground where you both are happy.
Sorry for the soap box. As I get older all that black and white turns to more and more grey. Sorta like my hair.:grin:
Or option 2!!:devil:
Chuck is right. Compromise is what it's all about... and it's not so insane for your wife to be more concerned as your son becomes more aware and able to ask questions she might find tougher to answer... like: Why is Daddy doing that?
On the other hand, if the divorce thread is what got you wondering, then perhaps there is a larger issue? I could be reading too much into the post, but if that's where your mind is taking you then that's the problem i would solve for first. If you guys are rock solid, then she'll take you with the cigars. Esp. if it's been ok to this point.
I'd talk it over with her and make sure she is aware of how stopping would upset you just as much (or more) than how smoking upsets her. Once you two agree that you're both caught with skin in the game, it may be easier to find a middle ground.
For my wife, I set up some ground rules for myself and my cigars. Only after the kids are in bed, good hygene, a promise to put down my 'gar when she has something better in mind... wink wink... maybe if you come to the table with some solutions in mind that address her primary objections she'll be more open to collaborating with you?
Anyways... that ended up longer than I intended. Best of luck brother.
On the other hand, if the divorce thread is what got you wondering, then perhaps there is a larger issue? I could be reading too much into the post, but if that's where your mind is taking you then that's the problem i would solve for first. If you guys are rock solid, then she'll take you with the cigars. Esp. if it's been ok to this point.
I'd talk it over with her and make sure she is aware of how stopping would upset you just as much (or more) than how smoking upsets her. Once you two agree that you're both caught with skin in the game, it may be easier to find a middle ground.
For my wife, I set up some ground rules for myself and my cigars. Only after the kids are in bed, good hygene, a promise to put down my 'gar when she has something better in mind... wink wink... maybe if you come to the table with some solutions in mind that address her primary objections she'll be more open to collaborating with you?
Anyways... that ended up longer than I intended. Best of luck brother.
Thanks guys. Definitely not thinking the big D. My wife really is wonderful she just harps on me a little sometimes. I really wish we had a nice lounge that I could go to but we don't. I think I'm going to just lay low and smoke when I'm fishing or shooting. Out of sight out of mind right?
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I only smoke one cigar a day and it's outside. My wife is cool about it but when your middle aged you almost don't give a crap anyways. Winter is only the wrench in the whole thing as I have to do it in that garage and she hates the smell lingering into here vehicle. I can't blame her I don't really care for the smell in my car either. But again it's just once a day and so It doesn't really affect our marriage in a bad way. I married a country girl, there better at dealing with things IMHO!!
I don't recommend this but it worked for me. Get her to try one, I did and my wife joins me for a cigar and for Christmas she is getting her own humidor. The reason I don't recommend this is your stash shrinks faster and your $ for cigars you like goes down but we spend moer time together which could be bad but is good for us, with 4 kids anytime together is good.