Why are good girls attracted to bad guys?

[Eric]

The last couple of days have been frustrating. One of my good friends got kicked out by her boyfriend (ex-convict) because he's an insecure :ahole: So she's been sheltering here at the house. This is like the 5th time he's kicked her out just based on his "suspicions".

Add to that she's 4 months pregnant with his baby. She just left to go back to live with him :disappoin When she went over to his place earlier today to pick up the rest of her stuff, she didn't even look at him. He end up accusing her that she was on drugs (she did do some, pre-pregnancy). She told him to buy one of those drug tests at the drug store if she didn't believe her. He did (wtf?) and basically inserted his foot in his mouth when it showed negative results.

The whole thing just irks me :gangfire:

As a sidenote... if you can not be totally yourself in a relationship, then by no means should you pursue it.

Thanks for letting me vent...

 

[RX2010]

I blame estrogen

I had a friend in high school that only liked to date psycho guys. Like the kind that would come and drag her away from a party if there were guys there that he didn't know, did she ever break up with him? of course not, that would have made life too easy

I don't know hope, I just hope it all turns out okay for the baby's sake if nothing else

 

[MithShrike]

Yeah I know how it is. Pisses me off. I think most of it is physical attraction or initial compatible character flaws.

 

[cvm4]

No clue, this has always baffled me.

 

[BradMc]

They just are...........:devil:

 

[rpb67]

It always happens that way and the same thing happens all the time. They end up getting hurt and the bad guy is still an asshole.

 

[Jwrussell]

Hidden insecurities.

 

[Black Dog]

I've read that it's an evolutionary throwback. Deep in the primitive parts of womens minds, while they want the safety, security, support and constance of a "good" guy to take care of them, they are at the same time overwhelmingly drawn to the wild man type to father their children since the genes would make the children stronger and more likely to survive.

Edit: These days women don't need the "good" guy so much because they can fend for themselves so the part of them that likes the "bad" boy can take over. Unfortunately, the "bad" boy is just that. He won't stick around for her and it can become an endless cycle of seeking/hurt/abandoment that becomes kind of self perpetuating.

 

[tobby4]

Hidden insecurities.

Sometimes not even hidden, but I think that this is exactly why

 

[justinphilly]

i think its the "motherly intuition" they have... Women constantly feel like they want to change, or can change guys. None of them want the "perfect guy" because then they will not be able to "fix" them.. or make them into the guy they want to be..

A woman wants to feel like she accomplished something with men.. Take a player, a man who cheats, and maybe beats his women.. Another woman may see that as a challenge. She may feel that she will be the only one that can change him.. she'll take her licks along the way, but she wont give up on him.. she wont give up on the challenge..

Eventually, allbeit extremely unlikely, she will change him into the "perfect guy"..

Just in time for the player, woman beater, schlep-rock, high school drop out, pizza delivery guy with an accent and a nice car to take "Mr. perfect's" place!

 

[Professor Twain]

So, is she hot?

Hope she showed her gratitude to you.

 

[goin' fer smoke]

So, is she hot?

Hope she showed her gratitude to you.

:hammersma

 

[Poni]

Because she doesn't want a best friend (before marriage), she just wants to get laid like guys do. Except they are only vocal about it to other girls.

 

[Quint]

Guess it time to be a bad guy :transform

 

[Sticks]

It's a very weird thing for sure. A friend of mine was left by his wife of 4 years because -as she said "you're too good to me and I just don't respect you anymore. " WTF!! She hooked up with an ex-con drunk and moved in with him.

I just think there are a lot of women out there that crave drama.

 

[tobby4]

yea i dont understand, sometimes i think that it is insecurities but then i just think it is that need or feeling of dependency...

 

[GuyMcBeerdrinker]

my wise grandmother used to say: "women are like hens; they'd rather peck at shit than eat corn"

it is very true.

 

[tedski]

Sometimes (actually many times) women defy all common sense and logic. One of my my sisters has been in one relationship after another over the past 15 years with idiots. Jailbirds, drug abusers, mental midgets ... she seems to only be attracted to the bottom 25% of society. I bailed her out of many situations with either money or a listening ear / shoulder to cry on.

About 5 years ago I totally stopped any assistance as she never heeded any of my advice or attempted to pay me back. Last time she called (over 18 months ago) was to ask for bail money - I refused. I heard a few months ago that she had completed her one year jail sentence in Washington state (drug charges), but was clean and in a 12-step program.

 

[Poni]

I just think there are a lot of women out there that crave drama.

:yes::yes::yes:

 

[caudio51]

It's the age old law......chicks make no sense