Let's Talk, BOTL and mental health

[Hoshneer]

I have a nephew that is five years old and has a brain tumor. Life is fucking unfair sometimes, I don't even know what to say. I don't want to vent on Facebook because I don't want them to see it. I have no right to complain, I wish I could do something for them. It's so hard when a child is hurting. I'm not even a religious person but some prayers couldn't hurt.

 

[sofc]

I have a nephew that is five years old and has a brain tumor. Life is fucking unfair sometimes, I don't even know what to say. I don't want to vent on Facebook because I don't want them to see it. I have no right to complain, I wish I could do something for them. It's so hard when a child is hurting. I'm not even a religious person but some prayers couldn't hurt.

I am so done. what's his name?

 

[Angry Bill]

Praying Rex.

 

[Hoshneer]

His name is Kyler.

 

[jmartins]

Rex all my prayers and heart go out to him and Mr. Guy to you also as a soon to be father I can't even fathom something going wrong I know I am not strong enough to deal with it.

 

[ZippoGeek]

His name is Kyler.

Praying in earnest for this child...

 

[sofc]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

That stinks on both counts. Check in when you can.

 

[ChefBoyRG54]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

We don't have to tell you that being sober will be the best for your child etc

Take care of yourself, don't use no matter what just for today, finish the treatment program, get to some meetings, and don't use no matter what just for today!

 

[Hoshneer]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

What matters is that you're doing something about it. I will keep you in my thoughts. You can do this.

 

[Hoshneer]

Thanks guys, they are going to be starting chemo soon so I'm hoping that will help.

Btw - My friend is fine, he moved back home. As much as it sucked that he had to I was still happy to be able to give him a hug.

 

[gigem_07]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

Prayers sent for your child and your family. Kudos to you for taking action so quickly on your own demons.

I have a nephew that is five years old and has a brain tumor. Life is fucking unfair sometimes, I don't even know what to say. I don't want to vent on Facebook because I don't want them to see it. I have no right to complain, I wish I could do something for them. It's so hard when a child is hurting. I'm not even a religious person but some prayers couldn't hurt.

Praying for you and Kyler. Life is definitely not fair, and nothing is worse than a child in pain.

I am new here, probably not at the top of anyone's contact list, but I am glad to talk if anyone needs a private ear. I know there are a hundred brothers that are willing and able to be PM'd or contacted should the need arise that are already implicitly trusted. That is what is so special about this place. We are a brotherhood, and it is not just a responsibility to be there for each other, it is a privilege.

 

[EO80]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

I can never understand what you are going through as I have never been in your shoes. All I can offer is thoughts and prayers for you situation.
Hosh, same goes to you and your nephew. I hope everything works out for everyone.

 

[Erikcooper]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

I hate to hear about the situation you're going through and I know you'll come out a rehab with a fresh sense of what you need to do to be strong through the rest of it. I'm sorry brother, truly.

I have a nephew that is five years old and has a brain tumor. Life is fucking unfair sometimes, I don't even know what to say. I don't want to vent on Facebook because I don't want them to see it. I have no right to complain, I wish I could do something for them. It's so hard when a child is hurting. I'm not even a religious person but some prayers couldn't hurt.

I hate to hear that man, it's a sad situation for anyone but especially one so young. There has been a lot of proof recently on cannabis shrinking brain tumors, even the federal government has finally admitted it. I'm not sure if that is something that can be tried legally in your area but it's absolutely something worth looking into. I'm praying for him brother.

 

[jmartins]

Just want to bump this to the top. I know I am feeling stress with school and work and everything in life so I know it can creep up on any given day.

 

[c.ortiz108]

@MrGuy, you've already won half the battle - admitting you have a problem and that you can't fix it on your own. A lot people never get that far. The fact that you're already going to rehab is even better.

@Hoshneer, so sorry to hear about your nephew. Sending him positive thoughts....

 

[The_Rev]

I'm a psychiatric RN with 18 years experience. I'm happy to be a resource to this forum any way that's needed.

 

[EO80]

I know everyone has a gripe about some aspect of their job. But mine is becoming a gripe about every aspect of my job and is beginning to affect my personal life.
I make great money and used to at one point love the job I fought so hard to get back. Now I am back with a new boss (ok so its been about 3 yrs back) but the guy is an absolute ass. Strictly by the numbers and no regard for anything other than keeping his own ass out of trouble. If that means micro managing and yelling at you on a daily basis then thats what is done. My job is no longer fun. My blood pressure even on meds is still not staying down. I sleep like crap or too much because I just am not happy with life.
So the decision has been made to make a change. My wife and I have talked at length and are about to put ourselves in a financial hardship situation for a few months if everything pans out. I have applied for a job making significantly less than what I do now but should be able to get into a training program to get closer to where I am now with much less stress, daytime hours and much more important the ability to have a job that is not as stressful.
This decision is still weighing very heavy on me as it has not been that long ago that we were in the same situation with my wife losing her job and me working two part times to make ends meet. But in the long run I feel like the emotional outcome is going to be well worth the temporary financial strife. My wife was in a similar situation before she lost her job but has found great enjoyment in getting outside of her comfort zone to a new field. Hopefully this will be the same for me.
Thanks for listening I just needed to get that out.

 

[ZippoGeek]

I know everyone has a gripe about some aspect of their job. But mine is becoming a gripe about every aspect of my job and is beginning to affect my personal life.
I make great money and used to at one point love the job I fought so hard to get back. Now I am back with a new boss (ok so its been about 3 yrs back) but the guy is an absolute ass. Strictly by the numbers and no regard for anything other than keeping his own ass out of trouble. If that means micro managing and yelling at you on a daily basis then thats what is done. My job is no longer fun. My blood pressure even on meds is still not staying down. I sleep like crap or too much because I just am not happy with life.
So the decision has been made to make a change. My wife and I have talked at length and are about to put ourselves in a financial hardship situation for a few months if everything pans out. I have applied for a job making significantly less than what I do now but should be able to get into a training program to get closer to where I am now with much less stress, daytime hours and much more important the ability to have a job that is not as stressful.
This decision is still weighing very heavy on me as it has not been that long ago that we were in the same situation with my wife losing her job and me working two part times to make ends meet. But in the long run I feel like the emotional outcome is going to be well worth the temporary financial strife. My wife was in a similar situation before she lost her job but has found great enjoyment in getting outside of her comfort zone to a new field. Hopefully this will be the same for me.
Thanks for listening I just needed to get that out.

Brother, it's better to happy and healthy above anything else. Sounds to me like you're making the right (though difficult) decision. Sometimes you gotta step back in order to move forward!

 

[Ducttapegonewild]

I know everyone has a gripe about some aspect of their job. But mine is becoming a gripe about every aspect of my job and is beginning to affect my personal life.
I make great money and used to at one point love the job I fought so hard to get back. Now I am back with a new boss (ok so its been about 3 yrs back) but the guy is an absolute ass. Strictly by the numbers and no regard for anything other than keeping his own ass out of trouble. If that means micro managing and yelling at you on a daily basis then thats what is done. My job is no longer fun. My blood pressure even on meds is still not staying down. I sleep like crap or too much because I just am not happy with life.
So the decision has been made to make a change. My wife and I have talked at length and are about to put ourselves in a financial hardship situation for a few months if everything pans out. I have applied for a job making significantly less than what I do now but should be able to get into a training program to get closer to where I am now with much less stress, daytime hours and much more important the ability to have a job that is not as stressful.
This decision is still weighing very heavy on me as it has not been that long ago that we were in the same situation with my wife losing her job and me working two part times to make ends meet. But in the long run I feel like the emotional outcome is going to be well worth the temporary financial strife. My wife was in a similar situation before she lost her job but has found great enjoyment in getting outside of her comfort zone to a new field. Hopefully this will be the same for me.
Thanks for listening I just needed to get that out.

I struggle on a daily basis to make it to my job, I fully understand where you're coming from. I haven't had a pay raise in over 4 years, my health insurance cost has increased over that time, so I am making less than I was 4 years ago. In addition, I am making significantly less than I was making 10 years ago. It seems to be getting harder and harder to justify coming to work.

It's harder some days than others.

But, keep at it. You'll get to where you want to be.

 

[Ducttapegonewild]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

One of the great things about this website is we truly are brothers. If the thought comes to mind to have a drink, reach out here, ask for help, the amount of people who would be willing to help are probably in the upper 100's.

All you have to do is ask.