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TexasSmoke and Todd said it best. Don't try to explain, you made a choice that was acceptable to you and not to her. Accept the fact, apologize, and remember that next time you have a similar choice. There is no wrong choice, but things go much smoother when sacrifice a little to meet her needs.
I agree. The problem arose for you from the following combination:
  1. You had her keys and agreed to pick her up after her meeting
  2. You planned on spending the evening with her
  3. You knew she'd be done around 7 or so
  4. You made a choice that made her stand around waiting for you long after you should have been there to give her a ride

My wife and I have two different views on lateness and that's gotten me in the dog house a couple of times. I've learned that things go much more smoothly for me if I'm where I say I'm going to be for her because that what's it's important to her, and I let her slide when she's not right on time for me, because I'm more flexible.
 
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Even after 23 yrs of marriage, I'm still confused and occasionally amazed at some of my wife's actions. But many professional studies have been done and they all agree that a dynamic relationship is much better than a stagnant one.

As you already have three years invested, your gf must have way more good qualities than negative ones. Take stock and work it out. In the scheme of things, stuff like this is small potatoes. Although IMO, you would have saved yourself some grief if you had gone to meet her at 7:11. Make it up by taking her out to her favorite place ...
 

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very funny taxasmoke. were all good now. we had slightly different views of the plan. misscomunication . but apologies were said and were good thanks for the advice.
 

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Women like to analyze everything at every angle, get use to it. They always think men are up to no good. Yes, it's bullshit.
And as some of the other brothers here said, "Welcome To The Club!!"
 

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I agree. The problem arose for you from the following combination:
  1. You had her keys and agreed to pick her up after her meeting
  2. You planned on spending the evening with her
  3. You knew she'd be done around 7 or so
  4. You made a choice that made her stand around waiting for you long after you should have been there to give her a ride
My wife and I have two different views on lateness and that's gotten me in the dog house a couple of times. I've learned that things go much more smoothly for me if I'm where I say I'm going to be for her because that what's it's important to her, and I let her slide when she's not right on time for me, because I'm more flexible.
Add this to Todd's comment about the situation being typical and you have my view on the matter.

Remember, when it comes to women, you must ALWAYS be on time. Whenever they are ready...is "on time".
 

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Even after 23 yrs of marriage, I'm still confused and occasionally amazed at some of my wife's actions.
I'm glad you two made up. Never try to use logic to determine the answer in these situations or like Schrodinger's Cat, the "truth" will always be out of reach.
 

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well, if she's pissed because you chose bball over her, she might have a legitimate reason for being pissed. and then to start another game, knowing that she's waiting....

now, my logic on marriage: a marriage license should cost $20,000. divorce is free!!
 

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Add this to Todd's comment about the situation being typical and you have my view on the matter.

Remember, when it comes to women, you must ALWAYS be on time. Whenever they are ready...is "on time".

Good advice there........I have experiance in matters of this nature......been married for 35 years. And yes, to the same woman.
 
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