Can I vent for a second??????

[jakeemtrn]

My In-laws are driving me crazy and they are 1500 mile away.......
It started when I was dating my wife..... I should have known but love is blind..... My FIL tried to cheat me out of $ 3000 of tax rebates to save him 400 dollars in taxes. After a number of emails and a few phone calls he wants me to pay him the 400..... And this is just the beginning......And the in-laws are on their way in for 2-3 weeks... I think I will be drinking a lot the next 3 weeks.... may be 4 to recover.... Her father used to smoke but now looks down on anyone who does.... like everything else.

 

[mnelson]

My In-laws are driving me crazy and they are 1500 mile away.......
It started when I was dating my wife..... I should have known but love is blind..... My FIL tried to cheat me out of $ 3000 of tax rebates to save him 400 dollars in taxes. After a number of emails and a few phone calls he wants me to pay him the 400..... And this is just the beginning......And the in-laws are on their way in for 2-3 weeks... I think I will be drinking a lot the next 3 weeks.... may be 4 to recover.... Her father used to smoke but now looks down on anyone who does.... like everything else.

i got a extra bed in DC if u need it bro :yes:

 

[Altercall]

Time to ask the boss for an emergency business trip that no one else can do.

 

[daniyal]

Just where do these folks live?

 

[tubaman]

YOU are the only one that can allow people to take advantage of you. You don't mention what your wife's viewpoint about this tax problem and $400 that your FIL wants from you. I hope for your sake she is on your side and thinks her dad is out of line.

I don't know how long you have been married, but the sooner you set the ground rules that your in laws can't run your life, the better. It will only get worse if you don't.

 

[MadAl]

I hope for your sake she is on your side and thinks her dad is out of line.

I don't know how long you have been married, but the sooner you set the ground rules that your in laws can't run your life, the better. It will only get worse if you don't.

Amen, if she's not behind you, you need to discuss this with her before they arrive.

 

[Brazilla]

YOU are the only one that can allow people to take advantage of you. You don't mention what your wife's viewpoint about this tax problem and $400 that your FIL wants from you. I hope for your sake she is on your side and thinks her dad is out of line.

I don't know how long you have been married, but the sooner you set the ground rules that your in laws can't run your life, the better. It will only get worse if you don't.

Amen, if she's not behind you, you need to discuss this with her before they arrive.

Having wasted 20+ years on a woman that was never on my side I'll just say this.

I couldn't agree more!

 

[Mitch]

Where does the wife stand? That's the kicker, if you two stand together you can set any rules you want with the family. I'd strongly recomend letting her do the talking for the both of you when it comes to her family and you do the talking when it comes to your family. Makes it very hard for them to play her against you then. A large part of my own family the wife and I are not overly fond of and keep at a distance. Some of them, I've had to say, if you want to be part of our lives, these things are off limits. Feel for you bro, good luck with this one.

 

[Mr_Punch]

YOU are the only one that can allow people to take advantage of you. You don't mention what your wife's viewpoint about this tax problem and $400 that your FIL wants from you. I hope for your sake she is on your side and thinks her dad is out of line.

I don't know how long you have been married, but the sooner you set the ground rules that your in laws can't run your life, the better. It will only get worse if you don't.

Amen +2

They wouldn't even be coming for an afternoon visit to my house!

My MIL had my wife listed as a co owner on one of her investments so she could get some sort of tax break, I found this out 1st joint tax return we filed, my MIL gave us small amount of $ according to her calculations however didn't take into account that the co ownership bumped us up to the next tax bracket, I told her to cease & desist, next tax time I find she did the same thing again so I told her I was going to report her to the IRS because I don't appreciate paying for her tax breaks. Well she stopped pretty quick.

To me it wasn't the $ it was the principal of the whole thing. My wife started whining that it was her mother and it was only costing us a few thousand $, I stopped her mid sentence and told her she needs to make up her mind and if she want to go live with her mom she is more than welcome to do so.

Women can be replaced!

 

[tubaman]

I'd strongly recomend letting her do the talking for the both of you when it comes to her family and you do the talking when it comes to your family. Makes it very hard for them to play her against you then.

I agree if your spouse can stand up to her family. Sometimes your spouse may not be strong willed enough to hold her ground. In which case, I would let her do the talking, but be right beside her.

 

[dpricenator]

Tough spot, but your FIL may end up respecting you more for putting your foot down. I had to put my FIL in his place when I first started dating my wife. We were young, but he began yelling at her and then said some very rude things. I broke his nose, and gave him a couple of black eyes. Now he and the whole family love me. I think he figured at that point she had found someone to take care fo her, and someone who would protect her best interests. Good luck bro.

 

[TexaSmoke]

What do you mean he tried to cheat you out of $3000 in Tax Rebates? Are you referring to by "tax rebate?" Not trying to be rude, but just wanted to know what we are talking about before I make comment about how your FIL might have tried to cheat you.

I've been married ot my wife for just shy of 5 years now and though I don't agree with my in-laws all the time I tend not to have any problems that have been discussed above. Personal advise is to just do your own thing and if they don't like it, let them be upset, no point in getting mad or being pissed off for 3 weeks. As for you wife, I would agree that you two probably need to make sure your on the same page.

 

[mercop]

I understand, my outlaws hate me and everything to do with me. That is why I do shit like give my 8 yr old swords and knives in front of them. The downside of this is as you know it causes the ol lady grief and if momma ain't happy, nobody is happy.

 

[Fox]

I agree if your spouse can stand up to her family. Sometimes your spouse may not be strong willed enough to hold her ground. In which case, I would let her do the talking, but be right beside her.

Mine could not stand up to her folks, but had no problem with me doing it. She has never second guessed me and made it clear to her family early on that her place was with me, not with them. I had to put the folks, brothers and sisters in their place several times over the years, but it has kept the peace and tranquility of our marriage. 3,000 miles has helped. . .:smile:

 

[pcozad1]

The first night they are there . Put on AC/DC Ive got big balls, walk into the room they are in, in your underware( with holes) scratching your nuts , all the time while puffing on the biggest stogie you can find. Tell them how nice it is that you guys can do this every night during the visit.:devil:

 

[jakeemtrn]

Thanks for all the support.
Thankfully my wife is behind me all the way. Her parents are in the wonderful state of OK. We have had enough on so many levels with them. Once a month she gets upset because we can't have the same relationship we have with my parents. She LOVES!!!!!!!! my mother. (no i am not kidding, I know it sounds crazy but my family are her best friends). Oh BTW my mom went to France recently and comes back and tells me I was going to get you a box of cubans but I didnt have the time.... These are the parents who are not really ok with smoking....

What do you mean he tried to cheat you out of $3000 in Tax Rebates? Are you referring to by "tax rebate?" Not trying to be rude, but just wanted to know what we are talking about before I make comment about how your FIL might have tried to cheat you.

*HE* asked us what if I was going to claim my wife as a dependent. I had already spoke to him 5 mo ago about claiming her as a dependent. So I said lets see who it gives the most advantage too. So we go to file and I tell him that we will get a 5000 refund. He informs me he already filed with out getting back to me, after asking me. I told him I would get back to him. At this point I am so fed up with the games that we don't talk to them very often.

 

[djustice]

Big mistake man. Don't ever say "lets see who it gives the most advantage too". Just tell him from now on you and your wife are filing jointly, end of story.

 

[Mr_Punch]

Claim her as your dependent anyway even if he also does, it will be up to him to explain to the auditor why he is claiming your wife as his dependent.

 

[smokinghole]

Claim her as your dependent anyway even if he also does, it will be up to him to explain to the auditor why he is claiming your wife as his dependent.

Touche! I think you got it right there. Kind of a dick move but it gets the point across for sure.

Jake I also feel for you. I'm about to get married and I know that the MIL is already overbearing. Luckily the soon to be wifey and I are on the same page and is standing up to mom and telling her how it is. I just fear that even with them in PA and me hopefully further south(hopefully florida) if we have kids they'll be back up our asses.

 

[Mitch]

Not sure, but I think he can file an adjustment to his taxes without much foul. If he wants to claim her, ask him about the child support payments he's getting behind on.