I would do this in a New York minute and burn his ass. . .Trust me on this, it would permanently set the ground rules for the future and make your life much, much simpler. . .:argh: You are going to have problems with these folks if you do not play hardball.
Can I vent for a second??????
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Luckily I havent been in this situation but I wouldnt let your father inlaw live rent free in your head. Claim your wife and if he wants to claim her also let him. As for the $$$ you owe him, personally I would pay it to him and let him know that the cash cow is now closed. Although distatsteful there are no rules against bullying your father in law around especially on your home turf. Just do it discreatly without the wifes knowledge.:grinFU:
Part of being married is filing taxes together, absent being separated or some bizarre bullshit like that. It's not as if you're just "shacking up." That's what he seems to think. I'd file jointly and let the auditors figure it out. (Unless there's something you've left out, I don't see why she'd be his dependent if she's married to you and living with you.)
If I'm not mistaken married couples can file individually, but the whole situation does sound a bit odd.
I know when I do my taxes even though I file jointly I claim my wife & kids as dependents, however my wife is a stay home mom so I'm not sure if that makes any sort of difference.
Altercall
I beat you all May '08 :)
I thought it would actually be illegal for him to claim her . I know she has to be under 25, but I thought she had to have the same permanent address, or couldn't make over a certain amount of $$. Something like that.
In order for him to legally claim her...
As of the end of 2007, she would have to have been under 19 or...
under 24 and a full time student or...
any age and permanently and totally disabled.
And
he would have had to provide over half of her support in 2007.
And
She would have had to live with him for more than half of 2007 (with certain exceptions).
If, it turns out (as I suspect) that he had no right to claim her, it is a fairly simple matter for you to file an amended return. Forms are available to download from the IRS website. Don`t hesitate to contact the IRS by phone either. I have dealt with them directly on a few occasions over the years and have always found them to be very courteous, professional, and above all, HELPFUL!!
http://www.irs.gov/
Lot of good advice on this thread!
I married an orphan:stretchgr
As of the end of 2007, she would have to have been under 19 or...
under 24 and a full time student or...
any age and permanently and totally disabled.
And
he would have had to provide over half of her support in 2007.
And
She would have had to live with him for more than half of 2007 (with certain exceptions).
If, it turns out (as I suspect) that he had no right to claim her, it is a fairly simple matter for you to file an amended return. Forms are available to download from the IRS website. Don`t hesitate to contact the IRS by phone either. I have dealt with them directly on a few occasions over the years and have always found them to be very courteous, professional, and above all, HELPFUL!!
http://www.irs.gov/
Lot of good advice on this thread!
I married an orphan:stretchgr
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rick12string
Caught in the Crossfire
You are the king of your castle. You set the rules there. If you FIL doesnt like it then he can go back to his own. You speak to him eye to eye and hold your ground or youll never get any respect from him. If you wife backs you up (as she should) then they cant play her against you but you must do the talking. As far as the money goes, I dont see you owing him anything.
Enjoy your smokes while hes there. No one can look down on you unless you let them!
Gummi Bear
Righteously Indignant
Tell him "I've got a .45, and a shovel. I don't think anyone's gonna miss you"
3 weeks is too long for a visit. 3 days is a bit more appropriate.
I wouldn't put up with his crap, nor would I make concessions during their visit. If they don't like it, they can pack up and head back home.
As for the money, tell him to pound sand. If he tries to claim your wife next year, turn him in. I have no sympathy, or patience for folks always trying to 'beat' they system.
3 weeks is too long for a visit. 3 days is a bit more appropriate.
I wouldn't put up with his crap, nor would I make concessions during their visit. If they don't like it, they can pack up and head back home.
As for the money, tell him to pound sand. If he tries to claim your wife next year, turn him in. I have no sympathy, or patience for folks always trying to 'beat' they system.
Three weeks is to long for a visit!
Money is a situation that has to be worked out immediately. I don't deal with my parents or in laws financially anymore. They are all at different places in life and money means different things to all of them.
I told my MIL as soon as my wife and I got married I was claiming her regardless of what it did to her taxes. I pay for her shoes and purses now, so I get the fat rebate!
Money is a situation that has to be worked out immediately. I don't deal with my parents or in laws financially anymore. They are all at different places in life and money means different things to all of them.
I told my MIL as soon as my wife and I got married I was claiming her regardless of what it did to her taxes. I pay for her shoes and purses now, so I get the fat rebate!
Good advice. And be civil yet firm...I'm sure your wife already knows how difficult her parents can be. You should never get emotional...but you need to have a "heart to heart". If they choose to continue their nonsense...well be thankful they live 1500 miles away and make sure you are somewhere else. 2 cents.
Exactly...this shouldn't even be a discussion.
