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Well i have been married for 10+yrs to a person who suffers from depression, Bipolar disorder and other mental illness. It has been a very challenging 10yrs. but this spring it got very bad. She can not hold down a job nor stop spending money we don't have. I was laid off to this summer so thing have been very tight.

While i was laid off i went to work for my dad's construction co. in Mo. for 2 weeks. I took the kids with me so the could take a vacation at the same time. When i got home my wife said she had found herself and liked the new her. And that i will have to get with her new program. The new program is leaving the kids at home and going out and getting blitzed and smoking pot almost every night. So she go's out and don't come home for day's and is upset because i don't like her looser friends. All in there 30's no cars so my car is there mode of transportation.

Well it all ended early this week i filed and served her. I am going for primary custody of my children. The most important things in my life but not her's because she has not even called to see how the kids are in a week. She even missed my 8yr old son's birthday again didn't even call.

Don't no if i will be on much still until this is over. Thanks to all for your calls, emails and pm's. A very special thanks to Wade and Dougie both great brothers who have been helping me threw some of the worst stuff. All prayers will be gladly excepted. JIM
 

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Jim I went through the exact same situation 4 years ago. My ex was diagnosed with those same conditions and would also be gone for days drinking, partying, waking up having no idea where she was. Just be there for your kids! It is and will be very hard, trust me. I am the primary (custodial parent) of my three girls. Mom gets them 1st and 3rd, so dads can get their kids you just have to fight. I did and it took a year-and-half. I knew there was no way I could get sole custody,as she would have to have been some major druggie that continually abused the kids. If you need anything, PM me and I will help out - give you my number and we can talk.


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Jim Im so sorry to hear this. I've never met you but you always have been a stand up guy here at botl. If you need anything even a chat get ahold of me as well. Hang in there brother and keep being a great dad!
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Wow Jim sorry. Living life on life terms can suck sometimes. Much prayers from Pennsylvania my friend
 

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Tough decision, but it sounds like the best. Best of luck, Jim! Hope all goes as good as can be!
 
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Sorry to hear that Jim, my thoughts and prayers are with you in these trying circumstances. At the same time I'm very happy for you that you found the strength to do what is best for your childrens saftey and well being.

I wish you and your kids the best in your new life.
 

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Thank you all for the kind words.



Jim I went through the exact same situation 4 years ago. My ex was diagnosed with those same conditions and would also be gone for days drinking, partying, waking up having no idea where she was. Just be there for your kids! It is and will be very hard, trust me. I am the primary (custodial parent) of my three girls. Mom gets them 1st and 3rd, so dads can get their kids you just have to fight. I did and it took a year-and-half. I knew there was no way I could get sole custody,as she would have to have been some major druggie that continually abused the kids. If you need anything, PM me and I will help out - give you my number and we can talk.


Brian
Thanks Brian it will be a tough battle being the man. Custody Is not are equal right generally but i am confident.
 
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