StogieFisher
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I have the same issues and have dealt with it by drinking too, been working on cutting back when Im out n about though sometimes still drink too much.
Let's Talk, BOTL and mental health
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I need to spend some time reading this post. Man, i don't know if it's getting older (i turn 40 fucking years old on Thursday), living in three states in the last five years, being married, or being a stay-at-home dad, but i have become quite socially anxious/disconnected in the last five years.
The only time/place i feel like my normal self is in an AA meeting, and with the boy i only get to one or two meetings a week.
The only time/place i feel like my normal self is in an AA meeting, and with the boy i only get to one or two meetings a week.
FocusONToNY
To smoke is human , to smoke cigars is divine !
Great idea brent and again thank you !
I hear ya! My youngest son has probably been to every AA mtg where we live. I even started one in our small town! I have to watch the "isolation".....sometimes I can feel isolated even in AA. Spent too much of my life trying to be a "part of"......can't afford to feel not a "part of" in AA. I need 2 to 3 mtgs a week. But getting older and more tired, sometimes I can't make it. Then I need to pick up the phone, etc, etc. Hang in there.
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Shwing!
work on your steps my friend. AA works if you work it. If you are having troubles outside of AA, it is a good indicator that you need to refocus and remember what you've learned.
**Read the steps and re-evaluate where you need to refocus**
**what other people think is none of your business**
**talk to your sponser**
It's not your fault my friend, don't be ashamed of your life and don't think that everyone else is living a normal life. You don't need to be understood, you just need to be happy. You are sober today and that my friend is an amazing thing. You are more than you think and inferior to no one. Life gets crazy.. refocus. Count your blessings and get back to the beginning. Remember when you started working the program and you really began to feel good about yourself and comfortable in your own skin? Start there and be humble in your journey. We are here for you and we are here for all brothers. We are next to you at the checkout line and sitting next to you in traffic. Don't feel so closed off, you are surrounded by brothers even when you don't know it.
This thread is amazing. I'm new here and to the entire cigar world, but certainly not a stranger to mental health or addiction issues. AA for 2.5 years now and medicated for the mental stuff. Lol. I'm here for anyone who needs it as well. We could all use an ear every now and then. Thank you brothers!
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Haven't really been active the past few days, been dealing with some anxiety issues but it seems to be under control again, I do it to myself smh can't handle excess caffeine anymore, took me out for a few days, send some positive vibes my way if you don't mind guys!
Hey, just remember to not beat yourself up. That's a good way to keep in an anxiety pit. It's OK to have anxiety. You're doing OK. Glad you're back with us.
You're good brother!
In my experience, anxiety is a function of staying "in my head" when I could be doing something for someone else. The more I think about my own problems, the worse I make them.
FocusONToNY
To smoke is human , to smoke cigars is divine !
Nick hope everything is OK and you're feeling better !
Nick,
Stay busy buddy, idle mind makes the anxiety all the worse. Do anything, clean the house, car, just do anything n if that " I'm going to die feeling comes, respond w fine take me. Don't fight it with thinking about it. Divert your mind to some robotic thing Like cleaning, don't just sit and ponder.
You'll survive buddy, you ever want to talk message me, n we'll talk via phone, my N.J. bro
Stay busy buddy, idle mind makes the anxiety all the worse. Do anything, clean the house, car, just do anything n if that " I'm going to die feeling comes, respond w fine take me. Don't fight it with thinking about it. Divert your mind to some robotic thing Like cleaning, don't just sit and ponder.
You'll survive buddy, you ever want to talk message me, n we'll talk via phone, my N.J. bro
Really appreciating all of the positive words brothers, seriously I did. It expect this at all even knowing how great this place is. Thanks again for all of your support, I'm doing my best to stay out of my head and just go on with my normal activities which has helped a lot.
