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I saw a interesting show about how aggressive education has become and how stessed kids are getting by the pressure of the parents in respect to pushing them so hard. I realized that not every kid can go to Harvard. And to beat a child to learn learn learn and then find out that they missed their childhood because of it, well that doesn't sit well with me at all.
Hendy, First off let me express my empathy. As a father of a young boy, I can kind of understand your position, and I am sorry you are going through this.

In response to your sentiment expressed in this quote (and I am not sure this will help at all) but my wife, sister, and mother are/were all educators at the high school level. All three of them agree that, while the IB program has it's merits, it is also receiving loads of criticism from progressive educators because it robs children of their youth-experiences.

At this day-and-age, a Bachelors degree is so easily attainable, it is the Masters Degree that is beginning to take on more importance... and by the time your young ladies are ready for that, they'll only need some good letters of rec from professors and to hit some GRE scores.

At the same time, there are many successful people who attained their PhDs after having dropped out of High School and then taken the GED. So ultimately, just remind your daughters that there are many parallel paths they can opt to take; with the good heads you've placed on their shoulders, I am sure they will turn out just fine.

Life---->Lemons----->LEMONADE!
 

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Being a teen age girl in high school sucks. Being the father of a teen age girl in high school is in some ways worse in my opinion. Most helpless feeling in my life so I am with you. Funny thing is that my daughter has all but forgot high school. She does not look back at it fondly but simply as school. She excelled in college. They don't have to go to Yale or Harvard. Business looks for common sense, character and purpose. They don't get that from high school. They get that from Mom and Dad. So, when she is successful, happy and running a big business the world and drops by to give you a hug and a "thanks Dad", remember today. Happened to me just the other day. Hang in there.
 
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Being a teen age girl in high school sucks. Being the father of a teen age girl in high school is in some ways worse in my opinion.
Hendy, I feel for you man.... As the father of two boys I can tell you that there are just as many problems with boys, there just different. My oldest has only one year left in college. He is starting to come around after the trying years. The next leaves for college in the fall?

Is it wrong that their mother and I are somewhat looking forward to an empty nest?? :dunno:
 

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Scott, sorry to hear of the hard news and how tough it is right now. You have gotten some great suggestions but I know it is little cancellation to how you and the family is feeling right now. I think that your attitude of having the girls have a good education but still be able to enjoy their childhood is the right answer and you will be reminded of it later on in their lives. Its hard as hell to have to go through it but you and yours can handle if from what I have seen and will be much better for it; so hang in there.
 

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I know this is tough for ya brother because I've been through something like this with my oldest son. He is now 22.
Trust me...you did the right thing and even though it may not feel like it you will see the rewards down the road. Both my kids are smarter than I ever was at there ages and as much as we want to cuddle and protect them, they need learning curves like this in life to push them further. Just continue to be the great dad you are and all the other things in life will follow suit.
We all know the kind of person you are so we know how good your girls will turn out no matter what the minor setbacks thow at them.
Hang tough my good friend!
 
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