Smoqman
BoM Aug. 2014
+ 2 to this.
what to do when your wife buys cigars
- Thread starter UtahRootBeer
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Yea that would work, except the original post....it did sound a little shitty.
I see both sides that people are coming from, but if you haven't smoked them before then why not light it up?
Lighting it up and giving it a go you may find something about it you like (even if it turns out to just be a ok yard gar) or if you don't you can then educate her that they are not in your wheelhouse. She will retain this information for the next time.
Lighting it up and giving it a go you may find something about it you like (even if it turns out to just be a ok yard gar) or if you don't you can then educate her that they are not in your wheelhouse. She will retain this information for the next time.
Yeah. This.
Smoke one or two, then bomb friends nearby who don't care. you'd be surprised how many people who aren't nuts about this like we all are who want Gurkhas. A buddy of mine thinks they're amazing. Heck, do a review for us on them.
To keep her from getting them again, let her know eventually by giving her a list or just telling her. I wouldn't do that for a while until you've smoked them.
Two things too do when your wife buys you any cigars:
1. Love her forever.
2. Be grateful she is trying to become involved in your hobby and/or make you happy.
Seriously it the ultimate form of flattery either way
1. Love her forever.
2. Be grateful she is trying to become involved in your hobby and/or make you happy.
Seriously it the ultimate form of flattery either way
I took a hiatus from cigars for a year or two, the year before last when I had gotten back into it I bought a decent sized sampler of Gurkhas. Mostly centurions and titans. They weren't bad I guess, definitely a yard gar tho. I've still got a couple resting in my wineador, hoping the age might liven them up a bit.
You guys are nuts! If I bought my wife a channel purse and said here honey it's beautiful and the lady at the store said it's almost as good as Chanel....my wife would have no problem taking it back and either would I. I want her to enjoy what she gets, and the same for me. I guess were just open like that to each other.
See, I imagine some wives are more sensitive about their gifts for you compared to what you get them. They probably expect us to screw it up.
Either way, I'm a single dude, so what do I know. (Hint, next to nothing)
Either way, I'm a single dude, so what do I know. (Hint, next to nothing)
Lol the questions were ....
I'm only pointing this out cuz heck id like to know too (at least the first question) and most of you have not answered them.
Not what should I do with these ghurkas or how do I keep from hurting my wife's feelings etc...
I'm only pointing this out cuz heck id like to know too (at least the first question) and most of you have not answered them.
Just remember, a happy life is a happy wife.
👍 very well said brother!
"And more importantly how do I stop her from getting shit I won't smoke or use?"
Smoke it, or it goes to the friends who smoke anything
the answer is embedded in the responses..
you dont stop her from getting shit you wont smoke or use..
if you have a wife that appreciates you enough to actually put some thought into a gift.. you smile and accept the gift.. say thank you.. and try to make sure she feels appreciated too...
That is not lying.. that is not the opposite of being open and truthful.. etc.. the physical gift is the least important part of this equation.. its about acknowledging the effort made and showing someone you love and care for (or should) some respect, kindness, and gratitude..
If you think she is intentionally screwing with you and trying to buy you things you wont like.. thats a wholly different situation..
There is nothing wrong with informing her, over time, about what you like, prefer, etc.. hopefully she will get it right the next time...
but you dont tell her that you dont like what she spent her time, energy, effort on.. in an attempt to make you happy..
that is.. unless you enjoy being thought of as a unappreciative a-hole... who isnt deserving of her time, energy, and effort in the future (expect underwear and socks next Christmas)...
its Christmas.. the old adage "its the thought that counts" is what matters... not the actual gift.. you dont try to force any change..
you dont stop her from getting shit you wont smoke or use..
if you have a wife that appreciates you enough to actually put some thought into a gift.. you smile and accept the gift.. say thank you.. and try to make sure she feels appreciated too...
That is not lying.. that is not the opposite of being open and truthful.. etc.. the physical gift is the least important part of this equation.. its about acknowledging the effort made and showing someone you love and care for (or should) some respect, kindness, and gratitude..
If you think she is intentionally screwing with you and trying to buy you things you wont like.. thats a wholly different situation..
There is nothing wrong with informing her, over time, about what you like, prefer, etc.. hopefully she will get it right the next time...
but you dont tell her that you dont like what she spent her time, energy, effort on.. in an attempt to make you happy..
that is.. unless you enjoy being thought of as a unappreciative a-hole... who isnt deserving of her time, energy, and effort in the future (expect underwear and socks next Christmas)...
its Christmas.. the old adage "its the thought that counts" is what matters... not the actual gift.. you dont try to force any change..
Craig Mac
BoM 4/10 7/11 12/14
Smoke em with a smile then start mentioning the same brand to her like Padron or Tatuaje or Liga Privada over and over and hopefully next year she upgrades the selection, if not, then trade her in for one that listens better. 
The above was meant to be read with a sense of humor to it. If you have found said comments to be offensive then I apologize for your lack of a sense of humor.
The above was meant to be read with a sense of humor to it. If you have found said comments to be offensive then I apologize for your lack of a sense of humor.
Cigary43
Just Another Ashhole
The great thing is that she cared enough to buy you something that you enjoy,,,cigars. The next thing to do is to talk to her and give her a list of cigars you love and that will be enough for her to draw from next time she wants to buy you cigars. It would be like you buying her perfume...she knows what she likes but sometimes we don't have the same tastes in things...which is why we ask questions and leave hints . You're still fortunate to have a wife who supports your hobby.