Let's Talk, BOTL and mental health

[EO80]

I struggle on a daily basis to make it to my job, I fully understand where you're coming from. I haven't had a pay raise in over 4 years, my health insurance cost has increased over that time, so I am making less than I was 4 years ago. In addition, I am making significantly less than I was making 10 years ago. It seems to be getting harder and harder to justify coming to work.

It's harder some days than others.

But, keep at it. You'll get to where you want to be.

I used to leave the house early for work. Come in to work early and be happy. Lately I have been leaving later and later. And trying to leave as early as possible. But the hours are getting later and later. We are short handed and can not get any applicants despite the pay and lots of advertisement. The world of LTL drivers in this small area is very small and the word is out on our boss. Nobody wants to work for him. Its pretty sad.

 

[EO80]

One of the great things about this website is we truly are brothers. If the thought comes to mind to have a drink, reach out here, ask for help, the amount of people who would be willing to help are probably in the upper 100's.

All you have to do is ask.

I found myself for the first time the other night coming home and grabbing the bottle of scotch off the shelf just because of the shit day I had. That was what pushed this decision. My father was an alcoholic and I am not going down that road for a job. Not worth it.
This site is awesome and I appreciate all the brothers here.

 

[TraderCigarCo.]

I don't know if this is the right thread, but I'd like to tell you gents that I have had some pretty bad struggles with the stress of my baby having some pretty bad issues already, she's not even born yet. We don't even know if she can survive after birth. I resorted to my previous alcoholic behaviors and I have decided to check into a rehab clinic about 6 hours away. 30 days of treatment will start tomorrow, shakes and hallucinations are kicking in in a serious way.
I don't know why I feel the need to share, but it just felt right.

Prayers for you and your unborn little one.. I don't know what either struggle is like, but I can't imagine the pain and anxiety of not knowing what's going to happen. Thoughts are with u brother.

 

[eastcoast paul]

Sounds like you made a very hard but right decision. When a job is impacting your quality of life health wise changes need to be made. It sounds like your has created a toxic work place. I will be adding you to my prayers tonight and i really hope things work out for you sooner rather then later.

 

[dontWIZonme]

I just found this and want to say that this is an awesome thread. Until recently I never really thought that I had alcohol problems, and then after talking with my social worker and a psychiatrist I was prescribed celexa for my anxiety and depression. The medication says not to drink, so I decided to at least go without drinking until my body was used to the medication. Currently, I'm on day 18 sober and still not a day goes by where I don't think about having a drink, or walk past alcohol in the store and have the urge to buy it. It's more difficult than I thought it would be, but I'm staying strong. And as for the medication, idk if it works but the side effects are starting to bum me out more than I was before the meds. The only upside is my work performance has increased.

 

[EO80]

Sounds like you made a very hard but right decision. When a job is impacting your quality of life health wise changes need to be made. It sounds like your has created a toxic work place. I will be adding you to my prayers tonight and i really hope things work out for you sooner rather then later.

Thank you. I appreciate it. Its pretty bad that all three supervisors here feel the same way but the other two have so much time invested that its a much harder decision. They are also older than I am so its not as easy to make that career swing.
The unfortunate part of this, is in this industry the way my boss acts is the norm. It is the way his boss treats him and at other similar companies I have worked it was the same there. And other people across the country in the same company they say its no different there.

 

[EO80]

I just found this and want to say that this is an awesome thread. Until recently I never really thought that I had alcohol problems, and then after talking with my social worker and a psychiatrist I was prescribed celexa for my anxiety and depression. The medication says not to drink, so I decided to at least go without drinking until my body was used to the medication. Currently, I'm on day 18 sober and still not a day goes by where I don't think about having a drink, or walk past alcohol in the store and have the urge to buy it. It's more difficult than I thought it would be, but I'm staying strong. And as for the medication, idk if it works but the side effects are starting to bum me out more than I was before the meds. The only upside is my work performance has increased.

Things will get better. You better believe there are a heard of people here that would be willing to help you out no questions asked.

 

[Hoshneer]

I know everyone has a gripe about some aspect of their job. But mine is becoming a gripe about every aspect of my job and is beginning to affect my personal life.
I make great money and used to at one point love the job I fought so hard to get back. Now I am back with a new boss (ok so its been about 3 yrs back) but the guy is an absolute ass. Strictly by the numbers and no regard for anything other than keeping his own ass out of trouble. If that means micro managing and yelling at you on a daily basis then thats what is done. My job is no longer fun. My blood pressure even on meds is still not staying down. I sleep like crap or too much because I just am not happy with life.
So the decision has been made to make a change. My wife and I have talked at length and are about to put ourselves in a financial hardship situation for a few months if everything pans out. I have applied for a job making significantly less than what I do now but should be able to get into a training program to get closer to where I am now with much less stress, daytime hours and much more important the ability to have a job that is not as stressful.
This decision is still weighing very heavy on me as it has not been that long ago that we were in the same situation with my wife losing her job and me working two part times to make ends meet. But in the long run I feel like the emotional outcome is going to be well worth the temporary financial strife. My wife was in a similar situation before she lost her job but has found great enjoyment in getting outside of her comfort zone to a new field. Hopefully this will be the same for me.
Thanks for listening I just needed to get that out.

Jobs aren't all thier cracked up to be and neither is money. You have to find a perfect balance. I have walked that line for 15 years with my job. It pays decent and I actually enjoy working everyday. Do what makes you happy it's the only life you got man.

 

[EO80]

Jobs aren't all thier cracked up to be and neither is money. You have to find a perfect balance. I have walked that line for 15 years with my job. It pays decent and I actually enjoy working everyday. Do what makes you happy it's the only life you got man.

Very true Hoshner.
Cigars make me happy. But sadly do not have the ability to open a b and m. Oh well. Guess I will just smoke them and find a job that gives me some enjoyment.

 

[3/5King]

I just found this and want to say that this is an awesome thread. Until recently I never really thought that I had alcohol problems, and then after talking with my social worker and a psychiatrist I was prescribed celexa for my anxiety and depression. The medication says not to drink, so I decided to at least go without drinking until my body was used to the medication. Currently, I'm on day 18 sober and still not a day goes by where I don't think about having a drink, or walk past alcohol in the store and have the urge to buy it. It's more difficult than I thought it would be, but I'm staying strong. And as for the medication, idk if it works but the side effects are starting to bum me out more than I was before the meds. The only upside is my work performance has increased.

Brother, Alcohol is a bitch. You are doing awesome though! 18days... Feels like 18 months right? The beginning is the hardest, and seeing as you're just starting new meds, it has to be hard to tell the difference between the side effects of the meds and being sober. You've been given an out brother, even if these meds don't work out, they've shown you something that you didn't see before. Getting on the meds got you sober and thinking, now you're 18 days into what, if you want it, is a sober life bro. That's huge, and 18 days is a great accomplishment when you didn't even know you had a problem to begin with.. Keep it up, take it slow and you'll make it through the other side. Proud of you brother. If you need anything, shoot me a message, I'm around. Keep it up!

 

[jkittle99]

I know everyone has a gripe about some aspect of their job. But mine is becoming a gripe about every aspect of my job and is beginning to affect my personal life.
I make great money and used to at one point love the job I fought so hard to get back. Now I am back with a new boss (ok so its been about 3 yrs back) but the guy is an absolute ass. Strictly by the numbers and no regard for anything other than keeping his own ass out of trouble. If that means micro managing and yelling at you on a daily basis then thats what is done. My job is no longer fun. My blood pressure even on meds is still not staying down. I sleep like crap or too much because I just am not happy with life.
So the decision has been made to make a change. My wife and I have talked at length and are about to put ourselves in a financial hardship situation for a few months if everything pans out. I have applied for a job making significantly less than what I do now but should be able to get into a training program to get closer to where I am now with much less stress, daytime hours and much more important the ability to have a job that is not as stressful.
This decision is still weighing very heavy on me as it has not been that long ago that we were in the same situation with my wife losing her job and me working two part times to make ends meet. But in the long run I feel like the emotional outcome is going to be well worth the temporary financial strife. My wife was in a similar situation before she lost her job but has found great enjoyment in getting outside of her comfort zone to a new field. Hopefully this will be the same for me.
Thanks for listening I just needed to get that out.

DO IT! Life is about opportunities. Seize it! The money will come.. if you love what you do, DO IT. No salary is worth hating your job. You've made the right decision. Life is too short.

 

[dontWIZonme]

Brother, Alcohol is a bitch. You are doing awesome though! 18days... Feels like 18 months right? The beginning is the hardest, and seeing as you're just starting new meds, it has to be hard to tell the difference between the side effects of the meds and being sober. You've been given an out brother, even if these meds don't work out, they've shown you something that you didn't see before. Getting on the meds got you sober and thinking, now you're 18 days into what, if you want it, is a sober life bro. That's huge, and 18 days is a great accomplishment when you didn't even know you had a problem to begin with.. Keep it up, take it slow and you'll make it through the other side. Proud of you brother. If you need anything, shoot me a message, I'm around. Keep it up!

I always looked at it like "eh it's right there... What's a couple of 40s on a Monday, or what's a couple of 32 is high life's on a Thursday? It's no big deal." But shit got put into perspective when I was told that it seemed like I was using alcohol to cope with stress from work and the fact that I couldn't sleep worth a shit. 18 days has felt like 18 months. This is a lot harder than I thought, but I was really proud of myself last week at the miniherf in Round Rock that I didn't have a drink and we were at a bar with an amazing selection lol. Thanks Dave. Your support makes me want to bomb the hell out of you

 

[SailorAg]

I always looked at it like "eh it's right there... What's a couple of 40s on a Monday, or what's a couple of 32 is high life's on a Thursday? It's no big deal." But shit got put into perspective when I was told that it seemed like I was using alcohol to cope with stress from work and the fact that I couldn't sleep worth a shit. 18 days has felt like 18 months. This is a lot harder than I thought, but I was really proud of myself last week at the miniherf in Round Rock that I didn't have a drink and we were at a bar with an amazing selection lol. Thanks Dave. Your support makes me want to bomb the hell out of you

We got your back, bro! Keep it up!

 

[Stogie_Bear]

I always looked at it like "eh it's right there... What's a couple of 40s on a Monday, or what's a couple of 32 is high life's on a Thursday? It's no big deal." But shit got put into perspective when I was told that it seemed like I was using alcohol to cope with stress from work and the fact that I couldn't sleep worth a shit. 18 days has felt like 18 months. This is a lot harder than I thought, but I was really proud of myself last week at the miniherf in Round Rock that I didn't have a drink and we were at a bar with an amazing selection lol. Thanks Dave. Your support makes me want to bomb the hell out of you

Hell yeah, brother. You've got us day and night if you need to reach out. Otherwise, keep up the awesome work my friend.

 

[jmartins]

@dontWIZonme it is all good brother you have us here all the time for you and you got a great outlook you said "Eh!!!" so you definitely got Canadian love now LOL.
Keep up the awesomeness brother we got your back...

 

[dontWIZonme]

@dontWIZonme it is all good brother you have us here all the time for you and you got a great outlook you said "Eh!!!" so you definitely got Canadian love now LOL.
Keep up the awesomeness brother we got your back...

I've always wanted to get up to the great white north and try some Tim horton's....

 

[SailorAg]

@dontWIZonme you definitely got Canadian love now LOL.

Is Canadian Love some sort of VD?

 

[King Kill 33]

Yeah, but it's a 'fun itch'.

 

[jonboy]

Struggling over here fellas. The wife and I are headed for divorce. It's a civil situation between her and I, but my heart is hurting to see my family split up. She wants it, i don't. We haven't told the boys yet. I don't know what else to say.........

 

[Catawbamatt]

Struggling over here fellas. The wife and I are headed for divorce. It's a civil situation between her and I, but my heart is hurting to see my family split up. She wants it, i don't. We haven't told the boys yet. I don't know what else to say.........

Damn brother, I hate to hear that. If there's anything we can do, let us know. Stay strong! This too will pass