Thegreekone
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A appreciate the feedback, advice, and overall support. Lots of good things to take in consideration.
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Wives, husbands, partners, and significant others....
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I smoke out in the barn. My wife's issue is that cigars cut into our already limited time together. Making sure we have some quality time together each week (and that I take care of the "honey do" list) seems to help.
Last time my wife blew up about smoking I told her I'd would just replace the occasional cigar with every night binge drinking.
LOL, I've used this argument too. Honey...I know you dont like my cigars but they are so much better for me than...(whisky, cigarettes, chew, hookers, crack, cage fighting, etc..)
It also helps if you give the wife a little leeway or some vice she can indulge in. My wife likes to shop and buy crap for the house. Stupid crap that is going to wind up in the garage in six months. So rather than shut her down I give her some license. She came home with a salad mixer machine one day. All I said was wow honey thats gonna save you a lot of time and now you wont throw your back out tossing the leaves by hand like those other dopes. It will be in the garage after Christmas guaranteed.
A Sarge that sounds almost the same as mine except my wife smokes newports which she's trying to quit! She like's the smell of a few cigars but she will let me know in a heart beat when she doesn't care for one and leaves me by my lonesome. You know it's a two way street and you have to keep wifey happy so you have to meet her halfway...good luck
I get "Just how many Cigars do you need at one time"? My answer, "the world doesn't grow enough tobaccco to fill that need"..:cbig:
If it weren't cigars, it would be something else. I am lucky, as my wife, actually will buy me some from our B & M for birthday, father's day, etc. She still says some of them stink and every once in awhile, I do. I tend to do the same as mbell does and we don't fight about it anymore; unless I out spend her!
njstone
BoM January 2010
Yea, most of us have been there, bro!
For me, I told her that I was not in any way "addicted" to cigars, proving it by not having one for a couple weeks. I told her that I was keeping things under control, and promised to keep it outside, not smoke in front of the kids, clean up well, etc. etc. Then of course I explained WHY I like to burn cigars--I need a way to relax and keep sane, and cigars really help facilitate that.
My wife still hates that I like cigars, but she tolerates it.
She did make me admit out loud, though, that I had "A ridiculous amont of cigars." She at least appreciated that I admitted that, although she'd have preferred my solution to be otherwise than simply getting rid of them one at a time
For me, I told her that I was not in any way "addicted" to cigars, proving it by not having one for a couple weeks. I told her that I was keeping things under control, and promised to keep it outside, not smoke in front of the kids, clean up well, etc. etc. Then of course I explained WHY I like to burn cigars--I need a way to relax and keep sane, and cigars really help facilitate that.
My wife still hates that I like cigars, but she tolerates it.
She did make me admit out loud, though, that I had "A ridiculous amont of cigars." She at least appreciated that I admitted that, although she'd have preferred my solution to be otherwise than simply getting rid of them one at a time
there is some data out there you can show her. Most women I know need "proof". Show her some of the data. I think Lew Rothman (may have posted some too). It shows the risk of cancer for cigar smokers v. cigarette smokers v. non-smokers. That should help some. But as they say, "it too shall pass".
ciggy
"TommyBoy"
Yup..same here. My wife is pretty cool about the whols thing as she loves me and knows it could be something worse. I don't have anyother "bad" habits to say and as long as the smoke isn't in the house she's cool with it. On the weekends she will sometimes even join me and have a small stogie with her glass of wine.
Hopefully your wife will understand but the breath issue may take awhile. I like to smoke my cigar earlier in the day so by the time I'm with my family the smell has worn off and givin my breath time to recoup. The last thing you want to do is take it to bed with you!
smokem94
BoM Sept. 05
Who in the hell are you and what did you do with Jeff!!!!:laugh::laugh::stretchgr
Thegreekone
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My wife is, how shall I put it, can be "frugal."
I told her last night that I got a deal on a box of "such and such" and she just turned to me and said, "are you serious?" I mean, some people don't get it. I, too, smoke 1-3 times a week depending on schedule and would rather smoke a good cigar less often than to just smoke any stick everyday. I told her how MINDFUL I am being about price and spreading out of two box splits, one of which is 25% off and she looked at my like I had some sort of cognitive impairment. She doesn't get that between the trading, bombs, and those two boxes, that is close to a year of smokes. SHEESH!
$4.33 a week for GREAT sticks. I don't think that is too much for a hobby one loves and gets infinitely more in return. Enjoy, fellowship and a sense of well being are hard to put a price on, no?
Just sayin.....
Maybe she needs to see some receipts from some of the heavy-hitters on here!
I told her last night that I got a deal on a box of "such and such" and she just turned to me and said, "are you serious?" I mean, some people don't get it. I, too, smoke 1-3 times a week depending on schedule and would rather smoke a good cigar less often than to just smoke any stick everyday. I told her how MINDFUL I am being about price and spreading out of two box splits, one of which is 25% off and she looked at my like I had some sort of cognitive impairment. She doesn't get that between the trading, bombs, and those two boxes, that is close to a year of smokes. SHEESH!
$4.33 a week for GREAT sticks. I don't think that is too much for a hobby one loves and gets infinitely more in return. Enjoy, fellowship and a sense of well being are hard to put a price on, no?
Just sayin.....
Maybe she needs to see some receipts from some of the heavy-hitters on here!
No sharing prices with wives. They might band together and we don't need that.
Thegreekone
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See, THIS is why I need the forums. I don't think things through. You are right, dealing with one wife and this hobby is enough!
I recant! :roundtheh
I'll second this. I've been looking at additional life insurance and when asked, I told the agent I smoke cigars maybe once or twice a week. He said that is not considered to be a "smoker" by there standards either and would not be an issue for writing an additional policy.
I'd suggest it is important to maintain the proper priority between our hobbies and our lifelong commitments. I am not for a moment suggesting that the wife is always right, but if we aren't listening to our partner's input, we are missing out on one of the key benefits of being married (and if it continues, probably another very important benefit as well!)
If we aren't willing to honestly discuss the health effects, costs and other related issues of our hobby, we are probably not really thinking them through ourselves either. Having a partner who cares for us and is looking out for the best interest of ourselves and our family is a good thing!
A good cigar is a pleasure, but it is no substitute for a lifelong partner and lover!
If we aren't willing to honestly discuss the health effects, costs and other related issues of our hobby, we are probably not really thinking them through ourselves either. Having a partner who cares for us and is looking out for the best interest of ourselves and our family is a good thing!
A good cigar is a pleasure, but it is no substitute for a lifelong partner and lover!
My wife and I started doing the same thing several months ago. Now I can hand her a NC and a CC and she almost always can pick the CC from just the pre-light smell and taste. And, yes, she smokes the CC. It has become a time that we both look forward to.
I hope that your wife will come around and accept your cigar smoking and maybe even join you.
The Waco Kid
"Let's play chess."
My wife hates - I mean, hates - me smoking a cigar. She gave up the cigarette habit about 25 years ago, and tells me that (a) the smell of a cigar reminds her of that, and (b) it's disgusting and she doesn't want to be around it, and (c) she has to leave to get away from the cigar and is going to the movies.
I've only been smoking a few months and we're still working on her coming to terms with it. It's not going well, actually, but she's VERY slowly beginning to accept that I enjoy a few cigars a week. I don't think she'll ever be supportive, but if I can get to a grudging acceptance, I'll be happy.
Jenady, you are a very fortunate man.
I've only been smoking a few months and we're still working on her coming to terms with it. It's not going well, actually, but she's VERY slowly beginning to accept that I enjoy a few cigars a week. I don't think she'll ever be supportive, but if I can get to a grudging acceptance, I'll be happy.
Jenady, you are a very fortunate man.
